"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I just got temporarily laid-off -- why do I feel like I just got a vacation?

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Just got a new job. Starting on August 4th. That's despite having a very bad credit rating. AI was helpful in providing explanations, pep talk and encouraging me, and was overall a good tool. But it is still God who opens doors in the first place and the right timing. I know when AI also doesn't work on closed doors. This is a genuine opening. Mom is very excited about this. Will have to see how the caregiving situation will work at this. AI told me not to tell them about it until a few days before the start date and reach out to their HR. Hoping this works out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just got a new job. Starting on August 4th. That's despite having a very bad credit rating. AI was helpful in providing explanations, pep talk and encouraging me, and was overall a good tool. But it is still God who opens doors in the first place and the right timing. I know when AI also doesn't work on closed doors. This is a genuine opening. Mom is very excited about this. Will have to see how the caregiving situation will work at this. AI told me not to tell them about it until a few days before the start date and reach out to their HR. Hoping this works out.
A man walks down the street, he says, "Why am I soft in the middle now?
Why am I soft in the middle? The rest of my life is so hard
I need a photo-opportunity, I want a shot at redemption
Don't wanna end up a cartoon in a cartoon graveyard"

If you would be my bodyguard, I can be your long-lost pal
I can call you Betty
And Betty, when you call me, you can call me AI
 

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A man walks down the street, he says, "Why am I soft in the middle now?
Why am I soft in the middle? The rest of my life is so hard
I need a photo-opportunity, I want a shot at redemption
Don't wanna end up a cartoon in a cartoon graveyard"

If you would be my bodyguard, I can be your long-lost pal
I can call you Betty
And Betty, when you call me, you can call me AI
shut up, boomer!!! if we wanted your opinion, we would ask. Haven't you broke everything (e.g., housing market) enough already..

:p hahahhahs j/k...
 

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shut up, boomer!!! if we wanted your opinion, we would ask. Haven't you broke everything (e.g., housing market) enough already..

:p hahahhahs j/k...
Don't get me started on the need for a land value tax, Millennial.
 

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In England, the employer should give the individual redundancy money for the amount of time an individual has worked for the organisation/company. Redundancy money is usually paid.

I'm not sure how it works over there.

I hope it all works out well and make wise use of the available time.

Congratulations on your new job.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Doing some caregiving tracking with AI:
Doing a shadow WFH before the Aug 4th start date and logging in caregiving tasks between the shift hours.
1) Yesterday, I had 98 minutes in caregiving tasks during the same overlapping scheduled full time job
2) Today it is like 3.5 hours - 4 hours.
Think I'm a bit worried about how this is going to play out because caregiving is a much bigger disruption than I had anticipated.
Lets see what this AI thing is going help navigate this with HR.
I wonder if we are talking about magic here because the numbers don't make sense.
This thing can only write polished letters to the right people, with my direction of course so it doesn't come across too AIish.
 

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I got a 13 week vacation to be precise...turns out 65 other people got a "vacation" too.

Isn't it great when your employer hands out "vacations" to people because businesss is slow?

I didn't have to even ask for this "vacation time". The weather is so great and look forward to the next few months.

I might also have to look at some other jobs while on "vacation" (but I might get recalled back if I don't).

Believe me when I said this. I tried to put on an act and pretend to be disappointed. I think I sold it.

Obviously I made sure not to thank the employer for the "vacation" as it's a lay-off and had to pretend to be disappointed and measured.

It's party time now! It's 2:06pm and I would be 6 minutes late for work. Oh wait, the whole day is free!
How are unemployment benefits in CA? :)
 

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How are unemployment benefits in CA? :)
I'm getting paid more from EI compared to my recent salary with the previous job. It's a long story how to explain the math.

However, EI may be short-lived because I'm going to be working at a new job.

Once I start working, then EI benefits stop. So long as I don't quit (usually probation doesn't lead to an "at cause" dismissal, so EI would probably be safe there) then the EI benefits would continue after.

However, my goal is not to stay on EI. My goal is to get a job that pays better than the previous job and is helps bring me out of poverty.
There is nothing worst than being in a soul-sucking job, and even if you do well and make allot of sales, the ship is still sinking because they are not paying properly. This new job I'm going to will pay well if I bring home the bacon, and pay commissions percentage, not "dollar store" incentives like the previous job (ie at least when I was doing it and was successful with it).
 

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Just gave the three weeks notice to the old company and synched the start date of the new company to align with the 3 week notice period. This is the first time resigning from a company that laid me off. However, I want to make sure the break is clean.
 

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After starting this new job, I'm now on a PIP, and just saw another lady at this job, whose probation period almost was about to run out, with her account "deactivated"...from my looking at the stats, it appears she even started that morning to work. I have one week on this PIP, but so far have saved enough EI hours for just medical (need 600 hours, crossed that milestone last week). I'm close to the 700 insurable hours. It would be interesting how the next week will unfold. So far it looks like I did ask for overtime today and it looks like I'm coming up with a narrative that they just released fresh leads. I would also have to look at other options such as taking one week off (ie caregiving leave). That would be in the event the following week is not successful (I'm not thinking of taking the actual week on the PIP plan off especially since fresh leads were still recently released).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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