"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eternal_water

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I have no potential targets to call up atm so I have to get someone brand new.

Given I have a job in a club has anyone got any chat up routes I could try out?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I work in 1 of the 3 cloakrooms, take peoples stuff when they arrive and give it back as they go
 

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I believe that simple, even lame openers are best. This is because you are testing the waters to see if she WANTS to talk to you. Sometimes too clever or funny or interesting an opener can MASK her low interest because you are entertaining her.

Consider the context. People are LEAVING a CLUB. I'd ask every girl...

"Did you have a good night?"

Or

"Did you have fun tonight?"

Most will give one word answers. That's ok. But a few will try to continue the conversation with you. Maybe follow up with "Are you a good dancer?" (Chicks like to talk about dance even if they suck at it lol.)

Fluff talk a bit and try for a number. "I gotta get back to work, but we should talk sometime. What's your number?"

The point I want to drive home is you don't need a fancy script. If she finds you attractive and wants to talk to you, you can talk about anything. Test the waters, and then proceed.
 

plate's_empty

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If you work at a club, doesn't matter what you do, unless it's in the men's bathroom handing out paper towels, chicks will want to bang you. Especially the insecure, young chicks. Make it happen, you don't need to much game, the club is your game. Like Mike said above, say something simple, smile...all you might have to do is be friendly.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Eternal_water said:
That on the other hand isn't so helpful
Lets be real, cold approaching is useless and a waste of time these days. Girls will trust you more if youre in their social circle and it be easier to meet them. Become friends with guys that know a lot of girls or have connections.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Lets be real, cold approaching is useless and a waste of time these days. Girls will trust you more if youre in their social circle and it be easier to meet them. Become friends with guys that know a lot of girls or have connections.
I know what you are saying, but it's not exactly the same as a random guy visiting the club doing an approach.

The idea is for the OP to be friendly and chat up the girls as they approach to get their coats or drop them off (or both ideally). As a staff member, he's considered "safe" and possibly has some "status." He gets a free pass to flirt with girls because staff is supposed to be friendly (at a good club lol).
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Chat the piss out of them on the way out when they're tipsy. Make it known when your shift ends. I'm not saying it's foolproof, but you gotta experiment and see where it takes you. Also, have a place in mind to go to in case one, two, three of them say yes.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Lets be real, cold approaching is useless and a waste of time these days. Girls will trust you more if youre in their social circle and it be easier to meet them. Become friends with guys that know a lot of girls or have connections.
Why would cold approaching be useless? That's pretty much the dumbest sentence I've read this month. Only someone who never had the balls to try it would say that.

So what you are saying is its more effective to find new social circles to have a shot at a few girls, instead of just hooking up with tons of random girls outside/at your workplace?

A girl who is drunk doesn't think as much of the social rules around her, instead she goes more with natural impulses. If you play your cards right and try to talk to as many girls as possible and getting as many numbers as possible, you will be flooded in poontang.
 
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