"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Eternal_water

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I have no potential targets to call up atm so I have to get someone brand new.

Given I have a job in a club has anyone got any chat up routes I could try out?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I work in 1 of the 3 cloakrooms, take peoples stuff when they arrive and give it back as they go
 

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I believe that simple, even lame openers are best. This is because you are testing the waters to see if she WANTS to talk to you. Sometimes too clever or funny or interesting an opener can MASK her low interest because you are entertaining her.

Consider the context. People are LEAVING a CLUB. I'd ask every girl...

"Did you have a good night?"

Or

"Did you have fun tonight?"

Most will give one word answers. That's ok. But a few will try to continue the conversation with you. Maybe follow up with "Are you a good dancer?" (Chicks like to talk about dance even if they suck at it lol.)

Fluff talk a bit and try for a number. "I gotta get back to work, but we should talk sometime. What's your number?"

The point I want to drive home is you don't need a fancy script. If she finds you attractive and wants to talk to you, you can talk about anything. Test the waters, and then proceed.
 

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If you work at a club, doesn't matter what you do, unless it's in the men's bathroom handing out paper towels, chicks will want to bang you. Especially the insecure, young chicks. Make it happen, you don't need to much game, the club is your game. Like Mike said above, say something simple, smile...all you might have to do is be friendly.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eternal_water said:
That on the other hand isn't so helpful
Lets be real, cold approaching is useless and a waste of time these days. Girls will trust you more if youre in their social circle and it be easier to meet them. Become friends with guys that know a lot of girls or have connections.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Lets be real, cold approaching is useless and a waste of time these days. Girls will trust you more if youre in their social circle and it be easier to meet them. Become friends with guys that know a lot of girls or have connections.
I know what you are saying, but it's not exactly the same as a random guy visiting the club doing an approach.

The idea is for the OP to be friendly and chat up the girls as they approach to get their coats or drop them off (or both ideally). As a staff member, he's considered "safe" and possibly has some "status." He gets a free pass to flirt with girls because staff is supposed to be friendly (at a good club lol).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chat the piss out of them on the way out when they're tipsy. Make it known when your shift ends. I'm not saying it's foolproof, but you gotta experiment and see where it takes you. Also, have a place in mind to go to in case one, two, three of them say yes.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Lets be real, cold approaching is useless and a waste of time these days. Girls will trust you more if youre in their social circle and it be easier to meet them. Become friends with guys that know a lot of girls or have connections.
Why would cold approaching be useless? That's pretty much the dumbest sentence I've read this month. Only someone who never had the balls to try it would say that.

So what you are saying is its more effective to find new social circles to have a shot at a few girls, instead of just hooking up with tons of random girls outside/at your workplace?

A girl who is drunk doesn't think as much of the social rules around her, instead she goes more with natural impulses. If you play your cards right and try to talk to as many girls as possible and getting as many numbers as possible, you will be flooded in poontang.
 
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