Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I Have to Wear Glasses

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Due to short sightedness, I am now having to wear glasses.
I would wear contacts, but I'm unable to due to a 'stigmatism' (whatever that is) in one of my eyes.


I have always liked chicks with glasses (they have that sexy secretary look). But do chicks avoid guys with glasses like the plague?
I've been told I look about 26 with my glasses on. Maybe that's good, maybe it's bad...I just don't know.

Your thoughts?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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theres plenty of guys with glasses who girls swoon over.

clarke kent. -well, when he takes them off, and pulls his underwear over his pants.

george costanza. -....i take that back.

sorry my main. you're screwed.

On the plus side. atleast you have eyes. you'd be in an even worse situation without eyes.
 

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I could go out without them...but unless I get up really close, I can't see a damned thing and I can't make eye contact with chicks cos I can't see their eyes.

But at least I don't have a tiny willy :D
 

I'm Joe Dirt

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Glasses aren't that bad. It just depends on how you present yourself. I wear glasses and I make my glasses be an asset for me. The trick is to pick out a pair you look good in, which you can do if you take a girl along with you to pick out your frames or ask the people behind the counter what they suggest (if they are pros and not just some 16 year old kids working at the store).

If you are the kind of person who parties and has this whole image/reputation of being a wild guy going, you can pick out a crazy pair of glasses which can become a conversation piece, and thus not only not get in the way but be an asset to your ability to pick up chicks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MidnightResistance

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When I got my frames, this really hot chick in the store picked them out for me.
Sadly I was an AFC and still with my LTR back then.

It's only recently I've had to start wearing them whenever I go out, so I guess it's not so bad.
I'm just very image conscious.
 

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MY girlfriend says she finds them sexy. As in she volunteers to say that as oposed to consoling me about an insecurity. So some women do find glasses sexy. I suppose it depends on how much a girl values intelligence in a partner.

Lets face it, they do make you look more intelligent even if they don't actually make you any more.
 

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Thats lucky.
I may sound intelligent, but in truth, I'm a moron in disguise!
At least I get to look intelligent and complete the whole 'appearance'
 

I'm Joe Dirt

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Glasses also do wonders for me as a Geek Squad Agent, because people are more likely to suggest any repairs I recommend, so I can really drive that revenue! It also worked awesome in computer sales, where I could tell people they needed whatever item that we were currently pushing and got far less resistance than when some of the non-glasses wearing sales people did it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think you have a 'nystagmus'. that's what i have too.

There are so many kinds of glasses, I'm sure you can find a pair that either flatters your looks or is inconspicious. Besides, you'll look better when you're not squinting and bumping into things.
 

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Dude, don't even worry about it. I wear glasses and I have no problem getting women. In fact, I prefer my glasses over contacts. Just get a nice, fashionable pair. The oval glasses are pretty classy right now - mine are taper-cornered squares. They're pretty thin. I have had plenty of girls tell me they dig guys with glasses. One said "for some reason, I have always found guys with glasses and earrings really sexy." (I also have earrings)

So it's not even worth worrying about. Just get don't get one of those big, pseudo-half-moon tortoise shell numbers like you had back in elementary school. Those make you look six.

Salut,

~Sloopy
 

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Wearing glasses is not a big problem (my doctor informs me that I stand a very high chance of wearing some later on in life), but more importantly it's what sort of glasses you pick that changes ppl's opinions.

Go for something that's lightweight, thin and rimless, try on a lot of pairs before you eventually pick one.
 

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Ayo make sure to get the lenses that don't reflect light off of them, u know they have those now.
 

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You could go emo and wear the thick black frame glasses. Girls dig that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by MidnightResistance
Due to short sightedness, I am now having to wear glasses.
I would wear contacts, but I'm unable to due to a 'stigmatism' (whatever that is) in one of my eyes.


I have always liked chicks with glasses (they have that sexy secretary look). But do chicks avoid guys with glasses like the plague?
I've been told I look about 26 with my glasses on. Maybe that's good, maybe it's bad...I just don't know.

Your thoughts?
You must have some very weird astigmatism, because there are contact lenses for that, the so-called toric lenses. Did your optometrist give some reason why you can't order a toric contact lens for that eye?
 

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I wear glasses and i get plenty of attention from females. I dont get many dates, but i do get noticed.
 

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It's the same principle as being bald or not amazingly good looking - it's all in the attitude.

Glasses can be an asset, definately. Spend a couple of hundred on a decent pair, it'll be worth it.
 

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i spent 900 on my glasses. It can be a nice addition to your style.
 

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Ummm....dude. They make contacts for "astigma".

I've got them in right now. They cost abit more, but they make them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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