"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yep it really sucks, just got the news today. I'll have to undergo kemo soon.

I'm frantically researching everything I can on fighting it ATM.

So far I'm trying to keep my body alkaline by eating cr@p loads of veggies.
WPC is also supposed to be good. Broccoli, antioxidants. I'm just going to sleep, eat and train light. I've also quit school to ease a bit of stress.

Any other alternate therapies that I'm missing? Or anyone have any experience?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You'll get through it, just make sure the doctors act quickly. What the health system does is process you and see that you DO have cancer but it's not an emergency.. Then when it is an emergency, it's too late.

Sounds like you're doing the right stuff, stay positive dude! at least you're fit and healthy so your body will be able to do its job.

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Thanks guys. Apparently the survival rate for lymphoma is about 90%, so I'm relying on my health to pull me through.

I just did a PR on the weekend and pulled 170kgs for 5 and all I can think about is once I go through Chemotherapy, it will be gone to nothing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Spinach is one of the most alkaline foods going
 
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Hey buddy, you have all my best wishes and sympathies for a speedy 100% healthy recovery! Remember you can always count on us and even moreso can always count on yourself to push yourself through any obstacle, even this one.

Secondly, people often give up in life because they "thought" they couldn't go further when they still had more in them. So take that weight trianing "givinig it all" mentality into dealing with this and you'll come out a champ!
 

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I don't really know what to say mate, apart from stay positive and I'm sure you'll come through and beat this.
Good luck to you and yours at this time, I wish you all the best.
 

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**** man...keep the board updated, keep your head up mate, you'll get through it :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Damn dude...that's horrible. Good luck and stay positive man!
 

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im so sorry man, stay positive and do the right stuff
keep us up to date on how its going
hopefully you will get through it mate
best wishes
 

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You'll come out of this a better man than all of us.
Good luck!
 

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That is harsh, drink lots and lots of green tea! Also, a detox diet could really help too, I lost ten pounds of toxins when I did mine and it was only for 7 days!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tough luck man, although any situation could always be worse. Your good health and young age are what will pull you through.

Do you know what type of lymphoma it is?
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Tough luck man, although any situation could always be worse. Your good health and young age are what will pull you through.

Do you know what type of lymphoma it is?
Thanks everyone, I haven't told anyone about this yet so I just felt like I needed to tell someone.

I'm not depressed or overly upset because so far I've had the privilege to live a healthy life up until now. When I see people in wheel chairs or people with mental problems at the hospital I feel like I'm lucky. I'm going to use this time to get good at surfing, learn an instrument and reed lots of books.

I have hodgkins lymphoma.
 

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Hey I read about hodgkins lymphoma, 90% survival rate if treated early, when are you undergoing radiation or chemo?

Hopefully not radiation, it really messed my uncle up who unfortunately isnt here anymore, and now my aunt went through it and shes worst than she used to be, but her cancer is fatal :(. Sorry I dont want to scare you, keep us updated, good luck and be strong k?
 

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wolf116 said:
I just did a PR on the weekend and pulled 170kgs for 5 and all I can think about is once I go through Chemotherapy, it will be gone to nothing.
But at the same time, had you not trained and stayed healthy, the cancer would probably hit you harder...

This is horrible but stay positive man, you're right that the survival rate is really high. Hope you get through it quickly.
 

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Sorry about your situation man, but you WILL beat this. Hodgkin's disease is VERY treatable and the fact that you're a weight lifter and an athlete will definitely be to your advantage.

You might know this already, but hockey player Mario Lemieux is a Hodgkins survivor, and he even came back and played a few seasons in the NHL after beating the disease.

Just keep your head up, stay strong, and it will be over before you know it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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