"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have a problem, probably not too usual either..

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People are scared of me.

Let's convey the facts:

I'm just 6'
I'm built like a fridge. not fat, NOT slim.
I have a red beard. (more on the colour later....)
I have a shaved head.
I dress/am as/a raver.

Geez, I've tried EVERY hairstyle possibly imagined. I look like a dork, in all but a shaved head. My hair is sand coloured, my templates/goatee are red, I got black/dark sideburns, and my moustach is light red/blonde...

I've tried having a "normal" hairdo, shaving off the beard, just having a moustach/sideburns/goatee etc, normal clothes, but then people think i'm "cute/cudly". There's nothing in between, I can only vary between these two extremes...

Suggestions?? :confused:

//Deus
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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if you're 6' and dressed as a raver, I'm pretty sure people aren't afraid of you unless you're pushing 250 lbs.
 
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Originally posted by semag
if you're 6' and dressed as a raver, I'm pretty sure people aren't afraid of you unless you're pushing 250 lbs.
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More than likely they're chuckling behind your back at your choice of clothes. However, each to their own. If you're just looking to "normalize" your appearance, you could either get rid of the beard and go for the "Mr Clean" look, or consider a wardrobe change.
 
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Actually, I've only had "good comments" about the rave clothes. they ain't the "extreme" rave clothes you see here and there, a bit more normal than that.

I weigh in at about 100-110 KGs. I don't know how many pounds that is though...

I've tried the "mr.Clean" Look, and as I said, I look cuddly/cute. not something to strive for..

I've even tried walking around in a suit. Though, then I look like something out of "the sopranos"......

//Deus
 
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this thread is worthless without pics.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah, I'm getting that feeling too, but I dislike tossing up my pic on the web though.... Hmm...

maybe I should toss one up for a short amount of time??

//Deus
 
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Originally posted by Deus
Yeah, I'm getting that feeling too, but I dislike tossing up my pic on the web though
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Are you afraid someone is going to take your picture and start using it on websites saying it's them? :rolleyes:
 
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I'm just not too comfortable about people recognising me on this site :D

Hm. I have no pics newer than last new years.... or older... on the computer.. I'll try to get ahold of one tomorrow, I think my mate has some party pics, in which I feature on some...

//Deus
 
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Originally posted by Deus
I'm just not too comfortable about people recognising me on this site :D
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Do what lotsa people do... cut out the face in an image editing program.

EDIT: I guess with all the "scariness" talk about your head that sounds kinda dumb, nm, disregard that.
 
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Well, believe me, people would recognise me anyways, and, a third of this is about the "facial hair" so....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Okay, this pic will be GONE in 8 hours...

*pof* gone.

Old pic, 1.5 years roughly..
Sorry the pic doesn't show much of me, something got in the way, and it's the only pic I have with the front of my head clearly (more or less, visible.

//Deus
 
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People see you as cute because you have a round face. Lose the fat and you will be able to pull off hairstyles without being 'cute'
 
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losing the fat is a great start for you. Also keep the facial hair trimmed up short and lose the glasses.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do you know people are scared of you?

It's part, due to what I've heard, rumour wise.

And, some people, whom I've asked why they avoid me (old schoolmates and such) has flat out told me, I look scary. *shrugs*


Okay then... *loose the babyfat...*

I dunno about any good excercises to keep the facial fat in check, so I suppose, that in order to lose fat from the face, I'm going to have to make a general % of fat loss, correct?

"losing the glasses".
Well, that's a bit of a problem, contacts ARE expensive. and, I can't wear contacts in my line of work, (workshop mechanic).

"keep the facial hair trimmed up short"
It's kept short (roughly 10 mm) except jor my "goatee" that's about 20-30mm).

Hm...

/Deus

Ps. yes, it was a good grab =P
 
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