War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Indeed.trojanman88 said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I have a problem kissing girls.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Skepsis
Don Juan
No, you’re just being a pansy. Take baby steps.Vice said:
Relax, put your forehead against hers, talk for a few seconds, Eskimo kiss, and close the deal.
That's how I got over my ‘fear of success’ at least.
Gustav Yavo
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Whoever said baby steps has the right idea. Start with some serious eye contact, get closer do some eskimo kisses (basically rubbing your noses together), start pecking, then go in for the kill (keeps your hands moving while you two are kissing) Just go step by step and you will be fine.
Vice said:
Your ego is stopping you. You can't handle the rejection and would rather leave things the way they are than risk the humilation.
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With no guile, and no game, there's no girl
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
jazzmaster2
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Actually, don't force it at all. It may sound cliche but it will naturally come. Plus it's so much better if you don't try to expect or force it. Trust me.Vice said:
trojanman88
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No, its probably just cuz you haven't done it before, its like cold water man. You just jump in
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
My first kiss came pretty late but I just went ahead and did it. Turned into a full out make-out session. And suprisingly, I was pretty good at it for a first time. I got more aggressive/ sloppy as the years went on.
Get some cool clothes. Go to a dance party and locate a hor. Grind on the hor, and glide your face over her hair, kiss her on the neck, etc. Then eventually work your way toward the lips (either with the same girl or with someone else).
Make it a gradual thing.
Make it a gradual thing.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
DUDE! I seemed to have gotten worse too. Hahaha, oh man, I thought I was the only one. It's not like you don't know what you're doing, you just don't care so much after the umpteenth time. Maybe I'm just lazy.