"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I have a hot date tonight, if it goes well..

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I have a date with a spectacular HB tonight. I feel pretty confident that it will go well however I should not mention about valentines or Sunday, if she brings it up and asks me what I'm doing I'll say I'm doing nothing. However I am wary that no girl wants to be single on Valentines and if the date goes well tonight i'll the very least kiss close her. It's too soon to call her tomorrow or Saturday and at the same time I'm wary someone else will be taking her out on Sunday, if she has a fantastic time tonight with me, whoever she goes out with on Sunday won't even compare right? What if it's an ex?

I'm wary given what I know about her she may try to coerce me into taking her out on Sunday (which is fine, it's a 2nd date, we'll go to the movies or something) but at the same time I know it's a big test to see if she's got me.

Can I really risk her going out with some other dude who may not be AFC on Sunday when I could be in the driving seat and could f-close there and then?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You are worrying to much and overanalyzing everything. Like you said you will be confident, but if you keep worrying about these things she can pick up on it (those are afc thoughts). ASSUME attraction and that she wants to be with you. Just be yourself and if it goes good She will want to do something possibly even before Sunday! Girls Neeed to have something to do on the weekend
 
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Mate, you're about to lose it. You're putting her on a pedestal and risking oneitis and that's a guanranteed one way ticket to chumpsville.

The only answer is to spin more plates. Stop caring.
 
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CaptainJ said:
Mate, you're about to lose it. You're putting her on a pedestal and risking oneitis and that's a guanranteed one way ticket to chumpsville.

The only answer is to spin more plates. Stop caring.
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There's a Chumpsville in Florida, about 10 miles from Gainesville.

OP, I knew from your first sentence that you put this girl on the pedestal like Princess Jasmine! Stop over-analyzing, it's poisoning your confidence. Spin more plates. It's super effective.

Don't worry, go with the flow, and be secure.

Case closed.
 
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Confused said:
I have a date with a spectacular HB tonight. I feel pretty confident that it will go well however I should not mention about valentines or Sunday, if she brings it up and asks me what I'm doing I'll say I'm doing nothing. However I am wary that no girl wants to be single on Valentines and if the date goes well tonight i'll the very least kiss close her. It's too soon to call her tomorrow or Saturday and at the same time I'm wary someone else will be taking her out on Sunday, if she has a fantastic time tonight with me, whoever she goes out with on Sunday won't even compare right? What if it's an ex?

I'm wary given what I know about her she may try to coerce me into taking her out on Sunday (which is fine, it's a 2nd date, we'll go to the movies or something) but at the same time I know it's a big test to see if she's got me.

Can I really risk her going out with some other dude who may not be AFC on Sunday when I could be in the driving seat and could f-close there and then?
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Over-analyze much??






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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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