"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stephen89

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I'm writing this quicky and may not sound coherent.

I went up to a professional African/Carribbean women.

I complimented on the way she looked.

I then asked where she is going which she replied home.

She was smiling throughout the conversation.

She then proceeded to ask me a lot of questions asking for my name, what I do, where I live, more which I expanded on them etc.

I asked would she like to meet up sometime for a coffee, she said yes.

I asked for her number, she stated it and I asked her to check it.

We amicably parted ways after this.

What should I do next? What should I reply and how long should I wait?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BackInTheGame78

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Text/call her and set up a date. How long is irrelevant if she actually likes you.

This should be the easiest part of the process, don't overthink and overcomplicate it.
 

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She already said she wants the date. You are golden....the only thing you can do at this point is screw things up.

The key is minimal activity, just set up the date. No excessive texting back and forth.

I am old school and still believe in waiting a couple days to contact...but as mentioned she seems to like you so you could get away with tomorrow. I also strongly believe no weekend dates unless you interest in a gal is low. Sounds like you like her.

I would text Thursday and close for a Monday evening drink date, or Monday afternoon coffee date.
 
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