"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stephen89

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I'm writing this quicky and may not sound coherent.

I went up to a professional African/Carribbean women.

I complimented on the way she looked.

I then asked where she is going which she replied home.

She was smiling throughout the conversation.

She then proceeded to ask me a lot of questions asking for my name, what I do, where I live, more which I expanded on them etc.

I asked would she like to meet up sometime for a coffee, she said yes.

I asked for her number, she stated it and I asked her to check it.

We amicably parted ways after this.

What should I do next? What should I reply and how long should I wait?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BackInTheGame78

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Text/call her and set up a date. How long is irrelevant if she actually likes you.

This should be the easiest part of the process, don't overthink and overcomplicate it.
 

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She already said she wants the date. You are golden....the only thing you can do at this point is screw things up.

The key is minimal activity, just set up the date. No excessive texting back and forth.

I am old school and still believe in waiting a couple days to contact...but as mentioned she seems to like you so you could get away with tomorrow. I also strongly believe no weekend dates unless you interest in a gal is low. Sounds like you like her.

I would text Thursday and close for a Monday evening drink date, or Monday afternoon coffee date.
 
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