Kev07
Master Don Juan
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She probably hates you for not talking to her, you fail.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Plec07 said:I don't know why I'm not locking this thread right now... *sigh*
Ok dude... you got some weird thing going on in your head here. Your linking smiling at other guys when she isn't in a relationship with you, to cheating on you and flirting with other guys when she is.
First things first. You need to get over the fact that your not the only guy in her life. Hell you havn't even spoken to her yet. I'm sure you smile at other girls, and when you really get into the whole "DJ-all-girls-want-me" frame of mind your going to be flirting with every good looking girl you set your eyes on. Ever heard if the term "keeping your options open" or "spinning plates"? Thats what she's doing. And it doesn't mean she's going to cheat on you when you get into a relationship with her.
You say that you don't want to approach her cos she'll have some other guy on her mind. She probably won't if she isn't in a relationship. And if she does then it doesn't matter. Because your supposed to be better then that other guy she's thinking of. You'll become that guy she's thinking of when other people approach her. Thats your goal. In the world of dating it's survival of the fittest. Thats why you work to become the best person you can be and come out top of the pack.
If this thread goes on the way it is now I'll lock it.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.