Kev07
Master Don Juan
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She probably hates you for not talking to her, you fail.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Plec07 said:I don't know why I'm not locking this thread right now... *sigh*
Ok dude... you got some weird thing going on in your head here. Your linking smiling at other guys when she isn't in a relationship with you, to cheating on you and flirting with other guys when she is.
First things first. You need to get over the fact that your not the only guy in her life. Hell you havn't even spoken to her yet. I'm sure you smile at other girls, and when you really get into the whole "DJ-all-girls-want-me" frame of mind your going to be flirting with every good looking girl you set your eyes on. Ever heard if the term "keeping your options open" or "spinning plates"? Thats what she's doing. And it doesn't mean she's going to cheat on you when you get into a relationship with her.
You say that you don't want to approach her cos she'll have some other guy on her mind. She probably won't if she isn't in a relationship. And if she does then it doesn't matter. Because your supposed to be better then that other guy she's thinking of. You'll become that guy she's thinking of when other people approach her. Thats your goal. In the world of dating it's survival of the fittest. Thats why you work to become the best person you can be and come out top of the pack.
If this thread goes on the way it is now I'll lock it.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.