Kev07
Master Don Juan
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She probably hates you for not talking to her, you fail.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Plec07 said:I don't know why I'm not locking this thread right now... *sigh*
Ok dude... you got some weird thing going on in your head here. Your linking smiling at other guys when she isn't in a relationship with you, to cheating on you and flirting with other guys when she is.
First things first. You need to get over the fact that your not the only guy in her life. Hell you havn't even spoken to her yet. I'm sure you smile at other girls, and when you really get into the whole "DJ-all-girls-want-me" frame of mind your going to be flirting with every good looking girl you set your eyes on. Ever heard if the term "keeping your options open" or "spinning plates"? Thats what she's doing. And it doesn't mean she's going to cheat on you when you get into a relationship with her.
You say that you don't want to approach her cos she'll have some other guy on her mind. She probably won't if she isn't in a relationship. And if she does then it doesn't matter. Because your supposed to be better then that other guy she's thinking of. You'll become that guy she's thinking of when other people approach her. Thats your goal. In the world of dating it's survival of the fittest. Thats why you work to become the best person you can be and come out top of the pack.
If this thread goes on the way it is now I'll lock it.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.