"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I feel so fake and it shows

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BongDuy

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When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.


I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.


Has anyone been through the same thing? I always try to remind myself, but i always find myself forgetting and just getting to comfortable.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mr_rogers

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BongDuy said:
When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.


I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.


Has anyone been through the same thing? I always try to remind myself, but i always find myself forgetting and just getting to comfortable.
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Yeah, it takes a while before C&F and all becomes second nature. The idea with all of the tips and tricks on this site is to incorporate them all into your personality and self. It's like how we're taught that women are attracted to confidence. You can act confident, which works, but the goal is to become a naturally confident person.
 
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I hear ya. I term it as going on auto-pilot. It happens to everyone. not just you. Just don't let it happen a lot. Be yourself. Trust your head in what to say and what not to say. Plus be confident and not let others walk over you. Hope it helps.
 
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BongDuy said:
When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.
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So what?

Keep it up and watch it become a part of you. Don't stress out. Its no big deal in the long run. Put in the effort and you WILL become what you want.

You can be flirty with chicks all the time. Practice and have fun with this!

I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.
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WHOA. Stop right there.

Like what??

There's no need to be negative. There's something wrong. Find the problem and fix it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nobody naturally has an AFC personality......think of that AFC stuff like a filter that you have built up over the years which filters your real personality with wimpiness....and think of it as removing that filter of AFCness and wimpiness and let your real personality in its most raw form go through unfiltered
 
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