"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I feel so fake and it shows

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BongDuy

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When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.


I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.


Has anyone been through the same thing? I always try to remind myself, but i always find myself forgetting and just getting to comfortable.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BongDuy said:
When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.


I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.


Has anyone been through the same thing? I always try to remind myself, but i always find myself forgetting and just getting to comfortable.
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Yeah, it takes a while before C&F and all becomes second nature. The idea with all of the tips and tricks on this site is to incorporate them all into your personality and self. It's like how we're taught that women are attracted to confidence. You can act confident, which works, but the goal is to become a naturally confident person.
 
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I hear ya. I term it as going on auto-pilot. It happens to everyone. not just you. Just don't let it happen a lot. Be yourself. Trust your head in what to say and what not to say. Plus be confident and not let others walk over you. Hope it helps.
 
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BongDuy said:
When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.
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So what?

Keep it up and watch it become a part of you. Don't stress out. Its no big deal in the long run. Put in the effort and you WILL become what you want.

You can be flirty with chicks all the time. Practice and have fun with this!

I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.
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WHOA. Stop right there.

Like what??

There's no need to be negative. There's something wrong. Find the problem and fix it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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nobody naturally has an AFC personality......think of that AFC stuff like a filter that you have built up over the years which filters your real personality with wimpiness....and think of it as removing that filter of AFCness and wimpiness and let your real personality in its most raw form go through unfiltered
 
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