"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I feel so fake and it shows

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BongDuy

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When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.


I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.


Has anyone been through the same thing? I always try to remind myself, but i always find myself forgetting and just getting to comfortable.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BongDuy said:
When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.


I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.


Has anyone been through the same thing? I always try to remind myself, but i always find myself forgetting and just getting to comfortable.
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Yeah, it takes a while before C&F and all becomes second nature. The idea with all of the tips and tricks on this site is to incorporate them all into your personality and self. It's like how we're taught that women are attracted to confidence. You can act confident, which works, but the goal is to become a naturally confident person.
 
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I hear ya. I term it as going on auto-pilot. It happens to everyone. not just you. Just don't let it happen a lot. Be yourself. Trust your head in what to say and what not to say. Plus be confident and not let others walk over you. Hope it helps.
 
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BongDuy said:
When i first meet girls, if things flow well, i can get them to laugh and pull off the ****y and funny. i even did it today when i met this lifeguard on duty. i can do this for only so long.
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So what?

Keep it up and watch it become a part of you. Don't stress out. Its no big deal in the long run. Put in the effort and you WILL become what you want.

You can be flirty with chicks all the time. Practice and have fun with this!

I noticed with some girls i've known for over a year, i dont act as " ****y and funny" but instead more AFC and i say stupid unneeded crap, negative stuff, and all the DO NOT SAY stuff.
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WHOA. Stop right there.

Like what??

There's no need to be negative. There's something wrong. Find the problem and fix it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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nobody naturally has an AFC personality......think of that AFC stuff like a filter that you have built up over the years which filters your real personality with wimpiness....and think of it as removing that filter of AFCness and wimpiness and let your real personality in its most raw form go through unfiltered
 
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