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Master Don Juan
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You should have told her to call you when she wants some D....so we just agreed to end it.
I ****ed up fellas
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You should have told her to call you when she wants some D....so we just agreed to end it.
I ****ed up fellas
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can't be desperate for the P. She has to be thirsting for you. All the other ways have you simping.You should have told her to call you when she wants some D.
It makes sense that women would be less attracted to men that act feminine and take on feminine roles. They might talk a bunch of BS about men and women being equal, but when there's any hard work to do or something needs to be paid for they suddenly become "traditional".Dont disagree with much of anything being said in this thread.
One interesting thing I read awhile back. Thet did some type of study and found that while women say they want men to do more of the domestic chores around the home, they become less attracted to that man over time.
**** no. You progressed. Not every dude can realize the things you realized. Besides, what make you think she was the one. Relax.Met a girl I hit it off with when I moved out here. She was great cooked for me cleaned for me helped me organize the little things in life us men hate doing. But I felt like she wasn’t hot enough for me to commit to. I ****ed around on her and ghosted her ended up hooking up with another chick that same night and she found about it.
Ran into her 3 weeks later and we tried working things out, but she couldn’t get passed what I did to her so we just agreed to end it. I know she’s done with me. I have too much pride to ask for her back, not sure if I want her back but can’t help but miss her.
I ****ed up fellas
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I bolded the important parts. Focus your attention on the first one and realise that the second one is a product of the human brain wanting what it can't have. What we can't have immediately raises its value and we tend to romanticize reality after the fact.Met a girl I hit it off with when I moved out here. She was great cooked for me cleaned for me helped me organize the little things in life us men hate doing. But I felt like she wasn’t hot enough for me to commit to. I ****ed around on her and ghosted her ended up hooking up with another chick that same night and she found about it.
Ran into her 3 weeks later and we tried working things out, but she couldn’t get passed what I did to her so we just agreed to end it. I know she’s done with me. I have too much pride to ask for her back, not sure if I want her back but can’t help but miss her.
I ****ed up fellas
nope. I was ****ing her every dayYou should have told her to call you when she wants some D.
Good point. I do remember telling myself when I was with her and she was all over me “**** how do I get out of this”. And was constantly having to take chicks to bars out of the city so I wouldn’t be seen by any of her friendsI bolded the important parts. Focus your attention on the first one and realise that the second one is a product of the human brain wanting what it can't have. What we can't have immediately raises its value and we tend to romanticize reality after the fact.
This can be a very tricky powerful feeling but realise there was a reason you didn't commit to her in the first place. Never settle.
I've been there too and i was telling myself "i wonder if the grass is greener somewhere else" and started to stray quite heavily. Part of it is looking for a new challenge to conquer within our program of spreading the seed, but the bigger part is being with the wrong person. It's never going to be perfect, but when you're with the right woman (for you) you'll have few, to no doubts.Good point. I do remember telling myself when I was with her and she was all over me “**** how do I get out of this”. And was constantly having to take chicks to bars out of the city so I wouldn’t be seen by any of her friends
It wasn't your wife (even though marriage is cuckd). Clearly, if you are pursuit of other people, she clearly wasn't putting down the wap the way you wanted.Met a girl I hit it off with when I moved out here. She was great cooked for me cleaned for me helped me organize the little things in life us men hate doing. But I felt like she wasn’t hot enough for me to commit to. I ****ed around on her and ghosted her ended up hooking up with another chick that same night and she found about it.
Ran into her 3 weeks later and we tried working things out, but she couldn’t get passed what I did to her so we just agreed to end it. I know she’s done with me. I have too much pride to ask for her back, not sure if I want her back but can’t help but miss her.
I ****ed up fellas
Great lolOh and I’m in a small town these days so I’m going to have to run into her at bars and clubs with guys all over her. Lovely. Never had to deal with this **** in a big city
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.