I Dumped My GF Today On Her Birthday

[soulforge]

Its true... i shouldn't even be dating or getting serious with a low quality woman, who needs to be in bars getting drunk.. especially when in a commited relationship!

I need to aim for better quality woman.. fuk this bish.. i,m gona get over this chick.

Still getting daily text messages from her... i'm going to ignore the chit out of her, thats all she deserves!

 

[soulforge]

Its crazy.. in her her own words around 4 months ago, she said she would never chase a guy.. no matter what.

Yet bieng hounded by messages from her on a day to day basis! Lol

 

[soulforge]

SHOCKING..

In her own words, she admitted she was a damaged woman.

In her own words, she admitted that she was quite a shallow person.

Every boyfriend before me, screwed her over (more like it was the other way around)

Talk about major major red fuking flags!

 

[soulforge]

I realize what I wrote was quite harsh. You are still in shock and grieving so to speak. I am sorry. I apologize.

Honor your process. Be careful not to get stuck or hang out thinking about it too long.

No matter what your emotions or thoughts tell you, maintain No Contact.

Thats ok mate.. i know your only trying to help, and yes i,m experiencing mixed emotions right now.

From anger, to relief to feeling guilt.. at the same time i am remaining no contact and ignoring her.

I have moments where i think, forget all this and i need to get back with her and try sort things out.

But that could turn out to be a huge mistake!

 

[soulforge]

Any contact with her now is like dropping to your knees and giving her your balls, on a silver plater.

Do not do it!

Keep your balls!

Keep your self-respect!

Lol don't worry, i intended to keep my balls mate.. and yes i have read many stories in the no contact thread, where reaching out had resulted in a hell of alot more pain..

I will be hitting the gym later tonight, i,m sure will feel better afterwards.. today is my day off work, and my days off work was usually spent with her, so feeling somewhat nostalgic

 

[soulforge]

I have a couple of niggling questions tho everyone?

After i dumped her, she sent me a text and left voice mails agreeing with the break up.

She sounded enthusiastic about breaking up.. and was giving me reasons why she is happy to break up (obviously blaming me)

Was this her attempt at trying to salvage some dignity by acting over enthusiastic about the break up? because it was me who dumped her.

Also i am getting daily messages from her, that i do not read..
If she decided to plead for another chance, would you guys give it to her in this situation??

 

[Tictac]

I have a couple of niggling questions tho everyone?

After i dumped her, she sent me a text and left voice mails agreeing with the break up.

She sounded enthusiastic about breaking up.. and was giving me reasons why she is happy to break up (obviously blaming me)

Was this her attempt at trying to salvage some dignity by acting over enthusiastic about the break up? because it was me who dumped her.

Also i am getting daily messages from her, that i do not read..
If she decided to plead for another chance, would you guys give it to her in this situation??

This is getting pathetic now.

You are acting like a woman.

Grow a pair

 

[dude99]

SHOCKING..

In her own words, she admitted she was a damaged woman.

In her own words, she admitted that she was quite a shallow person.

Every boyfriend before me, screwed her over (more like it was the other way around)

Talk about major major red fuking flags!

You have to seriously be weary of the girl eho says every guy screwed her around. That sounds like someone who refuses to accept responsibility for their own actions

 

[soulforge]

You have to seriously be weary of the girl eho says every guy screwed her around. That sounds like someone who refuses to accept responsibility for their own actions

My thoughts too.. when ever a girl tells you, every guy has messed her around, she more than likely has never come to terms or accepted her own role in the demise of that relationship.. always the victim!

 

[dude99]

My thoughts too.. when ever a girl tells you, every guy has messed her around, she more than likely has never come to terms or accepted her own role in the demise of that relationship.. always the victim!

Always victim is either a narcissist or sociopath. Either way you want nothing to do with these girls because they arent capable of having a real relationship with another human being

 

[dude99]

I have a couple of niggling questions tho everyone?

After i dumped her, she sent me a text and left voice mails agreeing with the break up.

She sounded enthusiastic about breaking up.. and was giving me reasons why she is happy to break up (obviously blaming me)

Was this her attempt at trying to salvage some dignity by acting over enthusiastic about the break up? because it was me who dumped her.

Also i am getting daily messages from her, that i do not read..
If she decided to plead for another chance, would you guys give it to her in this situation??

She was agreeing to the break up in otherwords calling your bluff to see if she could get you to second guess yourself. Its nothing more than a power play and she failed. Giving her another chance is teaching her its ok to treat you like garbage.

 

[soulforge]

She was agreeing to the break up in otherwords calling your bluff to see if she could get you to second guess yourself. Its nothing more than a power play and she failed. Giving her another chance is teaching her its ok to treat you like garbage.

Yeh thats what i thought, more than likely a power play by her.. or i damaged her ego.. so eagerly agreeing to the break up was her way of salvaging some dignity.. bishes and there fuking games!

 

[dude99]

Yeh thats what i thought, more than likely a power play by her.. or i damaged her ego.. so eagerly agreeing to the break up was her way of salvaging some dignity.. bishes and there fuking games!

Glad you're seeing the light. Now get out there and mingle with some new ladies.

 

[dude99]

Yeh thats what i thought, more than likely a power play by her.. or i damaged her ego.. so eagerly agreeing to the break up was her way of salvaging some dignity.. bishes and there fuking games!

You definitely damaged her ego because you blind sided her. You can tell how she behaved she was used ro getting away with everything. You probably didn't realize it during the relationship, you probably forgave her dozens of times when she crapped on you so she had it in the back of her head no matter how horrible she is you will always put it behind yourself and forgive. When you packed your bags and left it blind sided her and she was lashing back. Now as i previous stated go out and meet new ladies.

 

[wifehunter]

You really need to block her!!!

You should not be getting text messages, social media, calls etc.

Treat her like she has some kind of awful psychotic disease, and quarantine yourself.

 

[visions]

I,m feeling that sadness creeping in here.. WTF have i done guys..

She was attractive, good job we could have made a life together.. now its all gone.

I know it had to be done, but still its starting to hurt

Oh hell no. That b!tch was a no good old ass hag. You need to start looking elsewhere man

 

[SamTheHobit]

Good job on having some self respect.

 

[grayclif]

wait, shes your GF and doesnt know your home address?

I thought the same thing.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

This is really not an issue of her. This is an issue of YOU. She was brought to your life to awaken you to several character deficiencies you hold.

One character deficiency is DEPENDENCE. You seem to think that having a woman (although saddled with children and quite older than you) will make you happy. This is fallacious thinking. Women will not make you happy. Being fulfilled is your job and has nothing to do with women.

Second, STRENGTH. Your vacillating thoughts and likelihood not to cave in to them are a testament to how strong you are or could be.

Third, insecurity and lack of confidence in YOU. I don't know if you have kids, but a young man like you should not be dating much older especially a woman with three children. If your intention were family, you should be seeking a contender who is young and childless. Your choice of woman (especially one of low character) exemplifies the value you hold for yourself.

Consider this breakup a blessing. Without it, you wouldn't have had the opportunity to recognize certain deficiencies in you--and hopefully correct them.

Good luck.

 

[soulforge]

UPDATE..

She sent me a text message today, and curiosity got the better of me, so i read it..

HER - I sent a parcel out to you with your CDs in it, did you get it?

She sent that today.. there is another 9 messages on my whatsapp that i have not even read...

So tempted to read them grrrr but i know mostly nothing good will come out of it.

Part of me wants to have her apologise and make up with me.. but doubt that will happen and what future have i got with a woman who didn't give a fuk about my feelings at all, and treated me like chit

I really cared for this woman, feels like she didn't give a fuk about me