My standard date is golf driving range followed by mini golf. U can put your hands all over her arse while teaching her how to get her hips into the shot. U can put the same schtick with bowling or pool. Anytime u get stuck across a table it's in danger of becoming the dreaded interview. Move her to another venue. While yr walking plant a kiss on her.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't understand how are guys easily getting girls
- Thread starter Trainwreck
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
@Epicwinguy u seem like a legit guy who s trying to learn and yr getting a lot of golden advice. What I m not seeing r field reports on u trying it out. Have u got a couple of journal threads I ve missed?
Epicwinguy
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I haven't really gotten around to actually tracking my attempts. I am trying to balance it with figuring my life out overall. I haven't Tindered in a long time until today when I got no matches. When I do get matches I get bored and/or distracted and it fizzles out. The few times I actually asked when they could meet up, they stopped replying.
Epicwinguy
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Main problem is I have trouble moving it from the initial convo to meeting up. But I have had some matches I felt I was doing okay with in terms of messages.
marmel75
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I usually go to a place that has semi-circular booths along with a bar and other tables...I always arrived early to make sure I got the most secluded booth I can...a lot of times you already know its going to be on based on how close they get to you upon sitting down initially...I've had a few even ask me if its OK if they sit close to me...if you move to the middle and they scoot over right next to you instead of sitting on the end you know its about to be on. Typically we would have a drink and BS for about 15 minutes, then I'll challenge them to darts and really amp up the flirting and touching, etc during the game, then when we go grab another drink and head back to the booth they are almost always scooting over next to me in close contact and then I strike like a viper
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.