"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i don't follow up after getting numbers.

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Tails

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for a while now, i haven't really hooked up with anyone. for some reason i get lazy or something. and i don't do anything when girls talk to me, these days i don't even ask for numbers, i just ignore them. just the other day i had a girl come sit next to me and have a chat. this was at uni where i study. i use to approach alot but i don't anymore, i use to ask for numbers and then i never called them. it's like i'm getting lazy or something.

anyone else have this problem?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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lazy or scared of what to say to her on the phone?
 
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it's just a thing you'll usually fall into every once in a while. like you're not in the mood for it and dont care.

i've fallen into that mood very often, but end up getting out of the slump eventaully
 
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The only times I don't follow up on numbers is when the girls approach me and I'm not attracted to them. It's been happening a lot lately. 4's and 5's come up to me and say "I think you're cute!" I give them a very unenthusiastic "thanks".
Since I'm usually by myself, I don't play the "I have a girlfriend" card. Maybe I should start.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have to force myself to call girls after I've gotten their numbers. My main problem is having a natural intimate conversation with them. I am so bad at this that the whole date becomes this huge uncomfortable production in my mind. Since I refuse to do first dates on weekends, I become very tired even thinking of going out on a weeknight after work and straining to make conversation.
On the flipside, when girls flake out on my first date offer or don't answer my calls, I don't mind; I'm somewhat relieved! LOL!
GOD, I must fix my convo skills.
 
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I've been there, maybe your just shy or you been on some dates that were ackward. Keep the first date short and make it an action date.

Like going ice skating would be good. If the convo flows then good, if it doesn't. Then you can talk about that time she busted her head, then push her. Hehe.
 
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