"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i don't follow up after getting numbers.

Tails

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for a while now, i haven't really hooked up with anyone. for some reason i get lazy or something. and i don't do anything when girls talk to me, these days i don't even ask for numbers, i just ignore them. just the other day i had a girl come sit next to me and have a chat. this was at uni where i study. i use to approach alot but i don't anymore, i use to ask for numbers and then i never called them. it's like i'm getting lazy or something.

anyone else have this problem?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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R3N3G4D3

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lazy or scared of what to say to her on the phone?
 

ScrewIt

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it's just a thing you'll usually fall into every once in a while. like you're not in the mood for it and dont care.

i've fallen into that mood very often, but end up getting out of the slump eventaully
 

Ol'BlueEyes

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The only times I don't follow up on numbers is when the girls approach me and I'm not attracted to them. It's been happening a lot lately. 4's and 5's come up to me and say "I think you're cute!" I give them a very unenthusiastic "thanks".
Since I'm usually by myself, I don't play the "I have a girlfriend" card. Maybe I should start.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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AlwaysExcel

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I have to force myself to call girls after I've gotten their numbers. My main problem is having a natural intimate conversation with them. I am so bad at this that the whole date becomes this huge uncomfortable production in my mind. Since I refuse to do first dates on weekends, I become very tired even thinking of going out on a weeknight after work and straining to make conversation.
On the flipside, when girls flake out on my first date offer or don't answer my calls, I don't mind; I'm somewhat relieved! LOL!
GOD, I must fix my convo skills.
 

TurboLover

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I've been there, maybe your just shy or you been on some dates that were ackward. Keep the first date short and make it an action date.

Like going ice skating would be good. If the convo flows then good, if it doesn't. Then you can talk about that time she busted her head, then push her. Hehe.
 
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