"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't attract any girls! .. or am i blind?!

Demonicale

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Just wondering, i'm an average looking guy ... and i've gotten girls in the past.

It's just i never get approached or anything, i know it sounds abit "up my own ass" ... just wondering if anyone else fails to attract intrest?!.

I mean is it me who does'nt know how to read IOI's or anything?... or am i likle the ugly duck or some ****?...

Maybe a few pointers could help? ... thanks
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Plinco

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What type of women do you think you realistically deserve and what is your height and body weight?
 

ArcBound

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Demonicale said:
It's just i never get approached or anything,
Maybe you should approach them? Sometimes a girl won't give an IOI but still accept your advances. If you've gotten girls in the past you still should be able to get girls. Think what did you do to get the other girls
 

Demonicale

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Plinco said:
What type of women do you think you realistically deserve and what is your height and body weight?
I'm kinda really slim ... i think 10st is like 140lbs or something is'nt it? ... and i'm 5ft.4in

I'm not totally shallow, i would be happy with an average looking girl.

Arcbound, that's true ... i have had some degree of good fortune with that, although to do it every week or whatever seems to evade me :(
 

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Its about your market. I attract nice girls, girls in college or professional ones with a college degree. I went to a bar in the ghetto ass asian gotham I live in and I got IOI from a bunch of fvcking gold diggers who wanted free drinks and more. Hell no, I asked for no phone numbers after realizing that none of my lays including my recent 3 peat were girls from bars. I got a girl next week coming to Hong Kong to see me, where did I meet her? Work! This again proves I need to work on b1tches outside the bar. You need to change your venue and adapt to your market whatever it is!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Demonicale, you're showing indication of an AFC. AFCs sit around hoping a girl approaches him. Get rid of that approach anxiety and go approach them.
 

Demonicale

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SeymourCake said:
Demonicale, you're showing indication of an AFC. AFCs sit around hoping a girl approaches him. Get rid of that approach anxiety and go approach them.
Your right, i guess ... well i know it sounds baaaad and very AFC ... but i was hoping to kinda filter girls out who don't show intrest to those who do BEFORE i approach em.

I know it sounds bad ... it's just i've got a case of no nerves atm lol
 

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Demonicale said:
Your right, i guess ... well i know it sounds baaaad and very AFC ... but i was hoping to kinda filter girls out who don't show intrest to those who do BEFORE i approach em.

I know it sounds bad ... it's just i've got a case of no nerves atm lol
They are interested until proven otherwise :box:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bish0p said:
Apparently they do if you're tall, muscular and attractive.

I can agree with that 110% - I get on 'several' times a day depending where I go.
 
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