"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I definitley need some help

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alrighty ppl
now i've been reading these boards for sometime now and have some knowledge under my belt
but i have absolutley no practice
now before i really became itnerested in being a DJ i was as shy and quiet as they get
whenever i tried talking to the ladies i would start to sweat, (hopefully not visibly) but i could feel myself getting hot
now my major exams will be over in a couple of days and i find myself with about 4.5 weeks holidays
and i wanna go back to uni as a new guy
i'm 18
what should i do???

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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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start working out like crazy man and take up a hobby.
start looking better and getting more confidence, don't worry about what anyone thinks.

GO THROUGH THE DJ BOOT CAMP!
 

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atm, i'm not looking to give up completley on my nerdiness, although it may change later
i love playing games :cool:

but, i'd like to grow a second part of me that involves the ladies
but then again, i do'nt wanna start hanging out with the more skanky brainless twits, just some more down-to-earth gals

get where i'm coming from?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sign up for the military and you'll come out a man!!!:rolleyes:

J/K - do a search under the DJ Bible. There are a few threads out where DJ's are doing 'Boot Camp". Do a search!
 

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well do you think this is possible?
i love being a nerd, and i love my games...i frankyl don't see that changing
however, i know i can turn it off, and make games secondary to going out with ppl. so you reckon it's possible to become a master DJ :) while still retaining my nerdiness?
like i wanna be "the" guy when i have to be, but still enjoy my stuff
 
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I'll take your 'nerdiness' to mean 'intelligent' with quirky and semi-eccentric behavior!!

As long as you don't show your eccentricacies (spelling?) when approaching/socializing with a woman - at least in the beginning of the relationship, you'll do okay as long as you are 'masculine' in your speech and behavior!!
 

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by nerdiness i mean
*by golly i love my computer*
i love playin games
i can go for hours on end
however, i am definitley willing to put that in the back seat
i was thinking of getting a proper job (i only tutor a couple of hours a week...nice pay though), taking up some sort of self defence class and also possibly dancing classes :eek:

that's my plan for these holidays i think
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I loved my computer for 21 years and I don't consider myself a 'nerd'!! Why perceive yourself 'less than worthy' for such a characterization? Do whatever you want to do in life that is non-destructive - but by all means embrace your manhood!!!
 

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great viewpoint PuertoRican_Lover
that's what i wanna do
"embrace my manhood" without giving up my hobbies
and possibly get some more hobbies
particularly the self defence thing
 
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