"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I definitley need some help

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alrighty ppl
now i've been reading these boards for sometime now and have some knowledge under my belt
but i have absolutley no practice
now before i really became itnerested in being a DJ i was as shy and quiet as they get
whenever i tried talking to the ladies i would start to sweat, (hopefully not visibly) but i could feel myself getting hot
now my major exams will be over in a couple of days and i find myself with about 4.5 weeks holidays
and i wanna go back to uni as a new guy
i'm 18
what should i do???

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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start working out like crazy man and take up a hobby.
start looking better and getting more confidence, don't worry about what anyone thinks.

GO THROUGH THE DJ BOOT CAMP!
 

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atm, i'm not looking to give up completley on my nerdiness, although it may change later
i love playing games :cool:

but, i'd like to grow a second part of me that involves the ladies
but then again, i do'nt wanna start hanging out with the more skanky brainless twits, just some more down-to-earth gals

get where i'm coming from?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sign up for the military and you'll come out a man!!!:rolleyes:

J/K - do a search under the DJ Bible. There are a few threads out where DJ's are doing 'Boot Camp". Do a search!
 

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well do you think this is possible?
i love being a nerd, and i love my games...i frankyl don't see that changing
however, i know i can turn it off, and make games secondary to going out with ppl. so you reckon it's possible to become a master DJ :) while still retaining my nerdiness?
like i wanna be "the" guy when i have to be, but still enjoy my stuff
 
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I'll take your 'nerdiness' to mean 'intelligent' with quirky and semi-eccentric behavior!!

As long as you don't show your eccentricacies (spelling?) when approaching/socializing with a woman - at least in the beginning of the relationship, you'll do okay as long as you are 'masculine' in your speech and behavior!!
 

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by nerdiness i mean
*by golly i love my computer*
i love playin games
i can go for hours on end
however, i am definitley willing to put that in the back seat
i was thinking of getting a proper job (i only tutor a couple of hours a week...nice pay though), taking up some sort of self defence class and also possibly dancing classes :eek:

that's my plan for these holidays i think
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I loved my computer for 21 years and I don't consider myself a 'nerd'!! Why perceive yourself 'less than worthy' for such a characterization? Do whatever you want to do in life that is non-destructive - but by all means embrace your manhood!!!
 

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great viewpoint PuertoRican_Lover
that's what i wanna do
"embrace my manhood" without giving up my hobbies
and possibly get some more hobbies
particularly the self defence thing
 
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