Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I definitley need some help

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alrighty ppl
now i've been reading these boards for sometime now and have some knowledge under my belt
but i have absolutley no practice
now before i really became itnerested in being a DJ i was as shy and quiet as they get
whenever i tried talking to the ladies i would start to sweat, (hopefully not visibly) but i could feel myself getting hot
now my major exams will be over in a couple of days and i find myself with about 4.5 weeks holidays
and i wanna go back to uni as a new guy
i'm 18
what should i do???

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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start working out like crazy man and take up a hobby.
start looking better and getting more confidence, don't worry about what anyone thinks.

GO THROUGH THE DJ BOOT CAMP!
 

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atm, i'm not looking to give up completley on my nerdiness, although it may change later
i love playing games :cool:

but, i'd like to grow a second part of me that involves the ladies
but then again, i do'nt wanna start hanging out with the more skanky brainless twits, just some more down-to-earth gals

get where i'm coming from?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sign up for the military and you'll come out a man!!!:rolleyes:

J/K - do a search under the DJ Bible. There are a few threads out where DJ's are doing 'Boot Camp". Do a search!
 

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well do you think this is possible?
i love being a nerd, and i love my games...i frankyl don't see that changing
however, i know i can turn it off, and make games secondary to going out with ppl. so you reckon it's possible to become a master DJ :) while still retaining my nerdiness?
like i wanna be "the" guy when i have to be, but still enjoy my stuff
 
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I'll take your 'nerdiness' to mean 'intelligent' with quirky and semi-eccentric behavior!!

As long as you don't show your eccentricacies (spelling?) when approaching/socializing with a woman - at least in the beginning of the relationship, you'll do okay as long as you are 'masculine' in your speech and behavior!!
 

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by nerdiness i mean
*by golly i love my computer*
i love playin games
i can go for hours on end
however, i am definitley willing to put that in the back seat
i was thinking of getting a proper job (i only tutor a couple of hours a week...nice pay though), taking up some sort of self defence class and also possibly dancing classes :eek:

that's my plan for these holidays i think
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I loved my computer for 21 years and I don't consider myself a 'nerd'!! Why perceive yourself 'less than worthy' for such a characterization? Do whatever you want to do in life that is non-destructive - but by all means embrace your manhood!!!
 

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great viewpoint PuertoRican_Lover
that's what i wanna do
"embrace my manhood" without giving up my hobbies
and possibly get some more hobbies
particularly the self defence thing
 
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