Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
i cheated, but that's not who i am, but i'm in love, so i don't feel bad rotfl
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Everything on that page is dumb. The sheer mindless stupidity...behold and weep.
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20438736,00.html
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20438736,00.html
5string
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Many do while sitting on the couch all day eating Bon Bons and watching Desperate Housewives. Stimulating stuff.Warrior74 said:
cordoncordon
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Haha I was standing right in front of those two when that picture in the article was taken at Tabu at the MGM in Vegas a couple of months ago. I even remember that pose they took. We had just walked out of the David Copperfield show (sucked) and there they were.backbreaker said:
Julius_Seizeher
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Yeah that's some tenuous logic there.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Agree.Warrior74 said:
Don't get me started on "celebrity marriages"...they are largely a sham for the sake of the paparazzi and the idiots who follow celeb gossip.
I think we need to learn a lot from Indians regarding family life. This country attaches a lot of importance to moral values. There is no premarital sex. Divorce is very rare. Your wife will be with you throughout your life. You are expected to provide her whatever she needs. The only thing I hate about Indian marriage system is dowry.
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Feminism has been exported to India and it's coming from the top down, let's see if it takes root there. Here is their Czar of feminism getting grilled.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=in_4QhWQaq4
e1m00 said:
Sorry your information is wrong. Premarital sex is very very common, and cheating on spouses is common enough. Hell my granddad is a sugar daddy!! (Im half Indian, and my Indian Granddad has been "dating" his junior lawyer for the past 20 years...he is 95 and she is 45 - all the while my grandma was alive....who passed away recently from dementia...coincidence? Oh and the girlfriend was present for the cremation and mourning). One of my cousins on the Indian side got an arranged marriage to this chick whose mother used to sleep with some senior governmental official for extra money with her husband's consent. Of course this information was known before, but the marriage was still approved by the elders...the monetary windfall was worth it. Another cousin got into a similar arrangement with a chick (extremely wealthy parents) who is highly histrionic and probably suffers from BPD too! His life is a living nightmare. So much for moral values!! The only difference is that in Indian society everyone is a goddamn hypocrite which sort of compels people to put up with huge **** by hiding it under the carpet, or pretending to be the virgin Mary when they are as skanky as the *****s/sluts in certain countries in Eastern Europe. Personally I prefer the *****s/sluts in Eastern Europe - at least you know what you are getting into from the start. Very unhealthy society IMHO.. No respect.
And yes this dowry and arranged marriage sham...that is just socially acceptable gold digging.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
To have mutiple sexual partners is one's natural tendency. Marriage is the thing that's unnatural. When I see someone trying to give some sort of excuse for cheating, it's reminiscent of me of someone attempting to explain why they ate food today. Culture, for better or worse, occasionally mandates that someone makes excuses for natural behavior.
Is it possible to fast/not cheat? Sure, but that doesn't make it natural.
I think we'd be better off if our cultural gradually shifted to one where we weren't so hard on ourselves. Self-imposed rules, especially unnatural ones, are often unhealthy in a variety of ways.
If there's any reason to avoid marriage it is probably this; so you don't have to deal with the unnatural restrictions that marriage imposes in our culture.
Is it possible to fast/not cheat? Sure, but that doesn't make it natural.
I think we'd be better off if our cultural gradually shifted to one where we weren't so hard on ourselves. Self-imposed rules, especially unnatural ones, are often unhealthy in a variety of ways.
If there's any reason to avoid marriage it is probably this; so you don't have to deal with the unnatural restrictions that marriage imposes in our culture.
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I find it odd hearing it from you. Maybe I missed a few posts between here and then (it was years ago, damn, time passes). I remembered you are married (and married young to a girl who actually works for the marriage) and written in a pro-marriage style. Have something changed? My memory is off? Or you have a mistress/just happy despite being unnatural?azanon said: