She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Many do while sitting on the couch all day eating Bon Bons and watching Desperate Housewives. Stimulating stuff.Warrior74 said:Everything on that page is dumb. The sheer mindless stupidity....only a woman could read crap like this day in and day out.
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20438736,00.html
Haha I was standing right in front of those two when that picture in the article was taken at Tabu at the MGM in Vegas a couple of months ago. I even remember that pose they took. We had just walked out of the David Copperfield show (sucked) and there they were.backbreaker said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Agree.Warrior74 said:Everything on that page is dumb. The sheer mindless stupidity...behold and weep.
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20438736,00.html
e1m00 said:I think we need to learn a lot from Indians regarding family life. This country attaches a lot of importance to moral values. There is no premarital sex. Divorce is very rare. Your wife will be with you throughout your life. You are expected to provide her whatever she needs. The only thing I hate about Indian marriage system is dowry.
e1m00 said:I think we need to learn a lot from Indians regarding family life. This country attaches a lot of importance to moral values. There is no premarital sex. Divorce is very rare. Your wife will be with you throughout your life. You are expected to provide her whatever she needs. The only thing I hate about Indian marriage system is dowry.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I find it odd hearing it from you. Maybe I missed a few posts between here and then (it was years ago, damn, time passes). I remembered you are married (and married young to a girl who actually works for the marriage) and written in a pro-marriage style. Have something changed? My memory is off? Or you have a mistress/just happy despite being unnatural?azanon said:To have mutiple sexual partners is one's natural tendency. Marriage is the thing that's unnatural. When I see someone trying to give some sort of excuse for cheating, it's reminiscent of me of someone attempting to explain why they ate food today. Culture, for better or worse, occasionally mandates that someone makes excuses for natural behavior.
Is it possible to fast/not cheat? Sure, but that doesn't make it natural.
I think we'd be better off if our cultural gradually shifted to one where we weren't so hard on ourselves. Self-imposed rules, especially unnatural ones, are often unhealthy in a variety of ways.
If there's any reason to avoid marriage it is probably this; so you don't have to deal with the unnatural restrictions that marriage imposes in our culture.