"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i cheated, but that's not who i am, but i'm in love, so i don't feel bad rotfl
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Everything on that page is dumb. The sheer mindless stupidity...behold and weep.
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20438736,00.html
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20438736,00.html
5string
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Many do while sitting on the couch all day eating Bon Bons and watching Desperate Housewives. Stimulating stuff.Warrior74 said:
cordoncordon
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Haha I was standing right in front of those two when that picture in the article was taken at Tabu at the MGM in Vegas a couple of months ago. I even remember that pose they took. We had just walked out of the David Copperfield show (sucked) and there they were.backbreaker said:
Julius_Seizeher
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Yeah that's some tenuous logic there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Agree.Warrior74 said:
Don't get me started on "celebrity marriages"...they are largely a sham for the sake of the paparazzi and the idiots who follow celeb gossip.
I think we need to learn a lot from Indians regarding family life. This country attaches a lot of importance to moral values. There is no premarital sex. Divorce is very rare. Your wife will be with you throughout your life. You are expected to provide her whatever she needs. The only thing I hate about Indian marriage system is dowry.
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Feminism has been exported to India and it's coming from the top down, let's see if it takes root there. Here is their Czar of feminism getting grilled.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=in_4QhWQaq4
e1m00 said:
Sorry your information is wrong. Premarital sex is very very common, and cheating on spouses is common enough. Hell my granddad is a sugar daddy!! (Im half Indian, and my Indian Granddad has been "dating" his junior lawyer for the past 20 years...he is 95 and she is 45 - all the while my grandma was alive....who passed away recently from dementia...coincidence? Oh and the girlfriend was present for the cremation and mourning). One of my cousins on the Indian side got an arranged marriage to this chick whose mother used to sleep with some senior governmental official for extra money with her husband's consent. Of course this information was known before, but the marriage was still approved by the elders...the monetary windfall was worth it. Another cousin got into a similar arrangement with a chick (extremely wealthy parents) who is highly histrionic and probably suffers from BPD too! His life is a living nightmare. So much for moral values!! The only difference is that in Indian society everyone is a goddamn hypocrite which sort of compels people to put up with huge **** by hiding it under the carpet, or pretending to be the virgin Mary when they are as skanky as the *****s/sluts in certain countries in Eastern Europe. Personally I prefer the *****s/sluts in Eastern Europe - at least you know what you are getting into from the start. Very unhealthy society IMHO.. No respect.
And yes this dowry and arranged marriage sham...that is just socially acceptable gold digging.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
To have mutiple sexual partners is one's natural tendency. Marriage is the thing that's unnatural. When I see someone trying to give some sort of excuse for cheating, it's reminiscent of me of someone attempting to explain why they ate food today. Culture, for better or worse, occasionally mandates that someone makes excuses for natural behavior.
Is it possible to fast/not cheat? Sure, but that doesn't make it natural.
I think we'd be better off if our cultural gradually shifted to one where we weren't so hard on ourselves. Self-imposed rules, especially unnatural ones, are often unhealthy in a variety of ways.
If there's any reason to avoid marriage it is probably this; so you don't have to deal with the unnatural restrictions that marriage imposes in our culture.
Is it possible to fast/not cheat? Sure, but that doesn't make it natural.
I think we'd be better off if our cultural gradually shifted to one where we weren't so hard on ourselves. Self-imposed rules, especially unnatural ones, are often unhealthy in a variety of ways.
If there's any reason to avoid marriage it is probably this; so you don't have to deal with the unnatural restrictions that marriage imposes in our culture.
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I find it odd hearing it from you. Maybe I missed a few posts between here and then (it was years ago, damn, time passes). I remembered you are married (and married young to a girl who actually works for the marriage) and written in a pro-marriage style. Have something changed? My memory is off? Or you have a mistress/just happy despite being unnatural?azanon said: