"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I can't cvm during vaginal intercourse...

pvf94

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But bj's and all that I can just fine...whatsup with that? I remember I used to be afraid id cvm too quick and prayed I would last a long time and well...I guess I got what I asked for.

Any explanation? The current girl is very very sexy, and she is very tight too. And open to a bunch of positions...

I just can't get off inside of her vag...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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maybe god doesn't want u to have babies lolooololololloll

jk man, i think you're too used to the feeling of a hand or mouth. get used to the vag.
 

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you got a sexual dysfunction that is situational. the reasons may be fear, stress, anxiety, or inability to relax.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Perhaps your sex is just too vanilla to get you going anymore. I suggest thinking of ways to make it more exciting and thus more erotic and tantalizing. Perhaps she could dress up in a nurse's outfit. Maybe it would get your rocks off if you dressed up like a clown and stuck your finger up her bum while doing her doggy. Good luck, mate.
 

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This is a cool problem to have I have been there before too sometimes. It is kind of a cool little feature.
 

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I got an idea.. Why don't you fvck her for a good time then, at the end. Have her suck you off till you cvm.
 

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haha, hey man, at least you're smashin! whatever. do this, imagine a highly erotic fantasy for you and implement it with her. who cares how freaky it is! bring some excitement into the bedroom!
 

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pvf94 said:
But bj's and all that I can just fine...whatsup with that? I remember I used to be afraid id cvm too quick and prayed I would last a long time and well...I guess I got what I asked for.

Any explanation? The current girl is very very sexy, and she is very tight too. And open to a bunch of positions...

I just can't get off inside of her vag...
Do you masturbate frequently? If so, you are desensitizing yourself to one degree or another.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Sun Tzu said:
Do you masturbate frequently? If so, you are desensitizing yourself to one degree or another.

Yea, I have decided to stop so long as I am getting laid.

See the problem isn't that she wont suck me off at the end but that she wants me to cvm inside her and when I can't she feels insecure and unsexy....as if she is not attractive enough for me to get off while bangin her.

....I'm working on it. haha
 

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i have this exact same problem

dont know why its come about as i only masturbate twice a week and was a virgin until a couple of months ago

could it be that porn has warped my expectations of sex? so it just isnt as good as i thought it would be
 

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I found that when she gets more involved in it and doesnt just lay there and let me bang the hell out of her it gets me closer to coming. I think I am just used to the superior grip and position of my hand. haha
 

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kickureface said:
wtf i cant cvm during bj's. looks like we're reversed
Me neither. Same boat.

It could be any number of things. Male orgasms are simpler than female ones, but there's still a mental element. If you're not relaxed and enjoying yourself, you may not cvm.

also - and this may just be me - I find somewhat looser vaginas better than tighter ones. I discovered this after dating virgins for three years and finally going out with a slvt. Best sex I ever had.
 

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pvf94 said:
I found that when she gets more involved in it and doesnt just lay there and let me bang the hell out of her it gets me closer to coming. I think I am just used to the superior grip and position of my hand. haha
Hit that sh*t from the back and let her do all the work. You need to relax and stop being so concerned about nutting too fast.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Leporello said:
Me neither. Same boat.

It could be any number of things. Male orgasms are simpler than female ones, but there's still a mental element. If you're not relaxed and enjoying yourself, you may not cvm.

also - and this may just be me - I find somewhat looser vaginas better than tighter ones. I discovered this after dating virgins for three years and finally going out with a slvt. Best sex I ever had.
I actually agree with this. Not that I like loose vaginas or anything, but some of them are just too tight and not that isn't always a good feeling.

Also, virgins suck at sex wheras sluts are good at it.
 

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This doesn't sound like a bad problem to have. I'd be a little weary about her wanting you to cvm inside her though...
 

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There's a novelty bar sign that may hold the answer for you. "liquor in the front poker in the rear"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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