"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I can't cvm during vaginal intercourse...

pvf94

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But bj's and all that I can just fine...whatsup with that? I remember I used to be afraid id cvm too quick and prayed I would last a long time and well...I guess I got what I asked for.

Any explanation? The current girl is very very sexy, and she is very tight too. And open to a bunch of positions...

I just can't get off inside of her vag...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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maybe god doesn't want u to have babies lolooololololloll

jk man, i think you're too used to the feeling of a hand or mouth. get used to the vag.
 

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you got a sexual dysfunction that is situational. the reasons may be fear, stress, anxiety, or inability to relax.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Perhaps your sex is just too vanilla to get you going anymore. I suggest thinking of ways to make it more exciting and thus more erotic and tantalizing. Perhaps she could dress up in a nurse's outfit. Maybe it would get your rocks off if you dressed up like a clown and stuck your finger up her bum while doing her doggy. Good luck, mate.
 

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This is a cool problem to have I have been there before too sometimes. It is kind of a cool little feature.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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I got an idea.. Why don't you fvck her for a good time then, at the end. Have her suck you off till you cvm.
 

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haha, hey man, at least you're smashin! whatever. do this, imagine a highly erotic fantasy for you and implement it with her. who cares how freaky it is! bring some excitement into the bedroom!
 

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pvf94 said:
But bj's and all that I can just fine...whatsup with that? I remember I used to be afraid id cvm too quick and prayed I would last a long time and well...I guess I got what I asked for.

Any explanation? The current girl is very very sexy, and she is very tight too. And open to a bunch of positions...

I just can't get off inside of her vag...
Do you masturbate frequently? If so, you are desensitizing yourself to one degree or another.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sun Tzu said:
Do you masturbate frequently? If so, you are desensitizing yourself to one degree or another.

Yea, I have decided to stop so long as I am getting laid.

See the problem isn't that she wont suck me off at the end but that she wants me to cvm inside her and when I can't she feels insecure and unsexy....as if she is not attractive enough for me to get off while bangin her.

....I'm working on it. haha
 

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i have this exact same problem

dont know why its come about as i only masturbate twice a week and was a virgin until a couple of months ago

could it be that porn has warped my expectations of sex? so it just isnt as good as i thought it would be
 

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I found that when she gets more involved in it and doesnt just lay there and let me bang the hell out of her it gets me closer to coming. I think I am just used to the superior grip and position of my hand. haha
 

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kickureface said:
wtf i cant cvm during bj's. looks like we're reversed
Me neither. Same boat.

It could be any number of things. Male orgasms are simpler than female ones, but there's still a mental element. If you're not relaxed and enjoying yourself, you may not cvm.

also - and this may just be me - I find somewhat looser vaginas better than tighter ones. I discovered this after dating virgins for three years and finally going out with a slvt. Best sex I ever had.
 

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pvf94 said:
I found that when she gets more involved in it and doesnt just lay there and let me bang the hell out of her it gets me closer to coming. I think I am just used to the superior grip and position of my hand. haha
Hit that sh*t from the back and let her do all the work. You need to relax and stop being so concerned about nutting too fast.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Leporello said:
Me neither. Same boat.

It could be any number of things. Male orgasms are simpler than female ones, but there's still a mental element. If you're not relaxed and enjoying yourself, you may not cvm.

also - and this may just be me - I find somewhat looser vaginas better than tighter ones. I discovered this after dating virgins for three years and finally going out with a slvt. Best sex I ever had.
I actually agree with this. Not that I like loose vaginas or anything, but some of them are just too tight and not that isn't always a good feeling.

Also, virgins suck at sex wheras sluts are good at it.
 

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This doesn't sound like a bad problem to have. I'd be a little weary about her wanting you to cvm inside her though...
 

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There's a novelty bar sign that may hold the answer for you. "liquor in the front poker in the rear"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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