"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I can talk in Bus, but now I need the context to approach in university

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So guys, when I came here I only had questions and no answers. But Today, I am able to talk to strangers in the bus, and even get their contact. So, How different is university from the bus? I know I can pick my target in bus, and show my great assertive skills by listenning and making great rapport with the other individual in just about 10 minute, So how will university fare differently?

how do you guys find a context to make approach in school environment, especially if you've never seen the other person before? I need some situation that I could use it in more formal way, not coming in as aggresive, and still instilling my confidence in other person. I am of very extravert kind, its just the lack of experience in confronting strangers is keeping me down.

examination starting soon, so is this right time to approach? lots of people are intense right now, including myself. Do I give some time off to myself, especially as exams starting this week? How inportant is self clarity? Right now I've gotta lots of questions concernning my career goals, immediate summer job, my social life, etc. it just keeps on going, should I just give myself an opportunity to breath before climbing another mountain?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Be confident, cordial and conversational (just like in other informal interactions). The one thing that you may want to be cognisant of is the amount of slang and jargon that you use when you need to make an positive, business-like impression.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Franky summed it up :p.
But yea, from what i recall...just the things above...heck...even hi should work.
 
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