"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I braved POF...
- Thread starter Zunder
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Pair A Dice
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Black Widow Void
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Zunder, the gal I was seeing said that she was going to put her search "on hold and focus on me." Okay, "on hold" is kind of vague (I could learn from this tool btw). Anyway, I cancelled my profile and discovered that she did not.
I confronted her. She said that she went through effort to perfect her profile and needed to be extra sure before cancelling her profile. I called her on her sh*t, by saying "hey we are both self-proclaimed "glass half full people' and that doesn't sound very 'half full to me.' I did this in a rather masculine and not winy type voice. She cancelled the profile and we went out for a year. Bottom line is that she was worth it (for the most part) but I probably wouldn't do it all over again because she was also flaky as well.
In fairness, sometimes women just like attention and it's nothing more. Some may not condone my suggestion, but create a profile. Look on myspace for the type of guy that you think would capture her interst (make sure that the my space profile has several photos - in case you need a few more). Send this gal a message. See if she bites. No matter if she responds or not, don't tell her you did this. Make sure that your wording is different than your own.
This will let you know if she'll admit to already seeing someone and/or if she's a wh*re for attention. Oh and by the way, don't think that I didn't have a decoy profile that didn't cater to my most recent long term girl friend. I was lucky because she this 'profile' that I created received a lot of responses, but never one from her.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Zunder said:
Cool.
Now keep your options open, and that way everyone has their options open.
Other than the slight blow to your ego, I see no point in getting so caught up in a girl you've dated for a month
Colossus
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Colossus said:
True mate. Its just funny how for 30 days she wasnt online, then all of a sudden this week she started up again.
I see the pitfalls of me starting to develop feelings too soon and before she has validated herself to me as a person.
Time to go find some fresh pvssy. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Once women become used to the attention of online dating with limitless options at their fingertips, most become addicted like its a drug.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.