"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I braved POF...
- Thread starter Zunder
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Pair A Dice
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Black Widow Void
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Zunder, the gal I was seeing said that she was going to put her search "on hold and focus on me." Okay, "on hold" is kind of vague (I could learn from this tool btw). Anyway, I cancelled my profile and discovered that she did not.
I confronted her. She said that she went through effort to perfect her profile and needed to be extra sure before cancelling her profile. I called her on her sh*t, by saying "hey we are both self-proclaimed "glass half full people' and that doesn't sound very 'half full to me.' I did this in a rather masculine and not winy type voice. She cancelled the profile and we went out for a year. Bottom line is that she was worth it (for the most part) but I probably wouldn't do it all over again because she was also flaky as well.
In fairness, sometimes women just like attention and it's nothing more. Some may not condone my suggestion, but create a profile. Look on myspace for the type of guy that you think would capture her interst (make sure that the my space profile has several photos - in case you need a few more). Send this gal a message. See if she bites. No matter if she responds or not, don't tell her you did this. Make sure that your wording is different than your own.
This will let you know if she'll admit to already seeing someone and/or if she's a wh*re for attention. Oh and by the way, don't think that I didn't have a decoy profile that didn't cater to my most recent long term girl friend. I was lucky because she this 'profile' that I created received a lot of responses, but never one from her.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Zunder said:
Cool.
Now keep your options open, and that way everyone has their options open.
Other than the slight blow to your ego, I see no point in getting so caught up in a girl you've dated for a month
Colossus
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Colossus said:
True mate. Its just funny how for 30 days she wasnt online, then all of a sudden this week she started up again.
I see the pitfalls of me starting to develop feelings too soon and before she has validated herself to me as a person.
Time to go find some fresh pvssy. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Once women become used to the attention of online dating with limitless options at their fingertips, most become addicted like its a drug.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.