"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If you're not exclusive then she has the right to spin plates too. If you want to be the only person she sees then you need to put that on the table.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well, here's a secret for those that meet someone on POF and claim that they've cancelled their profiles. If you do a name search for the person. If they have indeed cancelled their profile, it will list the cancelled date. If they have not, it will look as if they have no one by that name.

Zunder, the gal I was seeing said that she was going to put her search "on hold and focus on me." Okay, "on hold" is kind of vague (I could learn from this tool btw). Anyway, I cancelled my profile and discovered that she did not.

I confronted her. She said that she went through effort to perfect her profile and needed to be extra sure before cancelling her profile. I called her on her sh*t, by saying "hey we are both self-proclaimed "glass half full people' and that doesn't sound very 'half full to me.' I did this in a rather masculine and not winy type voice. She cancelled the profile and we went out for a year. Bottom line is that she was worth it (for the most part) but I probably wouldn't do it all over again because she was also flaky as well.

In fairness, sometimes women just like attention and it's nothing more. Some may not condone my suggestion, but create a profile. Look on myspace for the type of guy that you think would capture her interst (make sure that the my space profile has several photos - in case you need a few more). Send this gal a message. See if she bites. No matter if she responds or not, don't tell her you did this. Make sure that your wording is different than your own.

This will let you know if she'll admit to already seeing someone and/or if she's a wh*re for attention. Oh and by the way, don't think that I didn't have a decoy profile that didn't cater to my most recent long term girl friend. I was lucky because she this 'profile' that I created received a lot of responses, but never one from her.
 
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The chick has updated her profile slightly by altering her occupation and removing one of her photos. I think she is definitely keeping her options open. We will see if I can pick up anything from her actions this weekend with me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Black Widow Void said:
Well, here's a secret for those that meet someone on POF and claim that they've cancelled their profiles. If you do a name search for the person. If they have indeed cancelled their profile, it will list the cancelled date. If they have not, it will look as if they have no one by that name.

Zunder, the gal I was seeing said that she was going to put her search "on hold and focus on me." Okay, "on hold" is kind of vague (I could learn from this tool btw). Anyway, I cancelled my profile and discovered that she did not.

I confronted her. She said that she went through effort to perfect her profile and needed to be extra sure before cancelling her profile. I called her on her sh*t, by saying "hey we are both self-proclaimed "glass half full people' and that doesn't sound very 'half full to me.' I did this in a rather masculine and not winy type voice. She cancelled the profile and we went out for a year. Bottom line is that she was worth it (for the most part) but I probably wouldn't do it all over again because she was also flaky as well.

In fairness, sometimes women just like attention and it's nothing more. Some may not condone my suggestion, but create a profile. Look on myspace for the type of guy that you think would capture her interst (make sure that the my space profile has several photos - in case you need a few more). Send this gal a message. See if she bites. No matter if she responds or not, don't tell her you did this. Make sure that your wording is different than your own.

This will let you know if she'll admit to already seeing someone and/or if she's a wh*re for attention. Oh and by the way, don't think that I didn't have a decoy profile that didn't cater to my most recent long term girl friend. I was lucky because she this 'profile' that I created received a lot of responses, but never one from her.
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Interesting Blackwidow, very interesting.
 
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Zunder said:
The chick has updated her profile slightly by altering her occupation and removing one of her photos. I think she is definitely keeping her options open. We will see if I can pick up anything from her actions this weekend with me.
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Cool.

Now keep your options open, and that way everyone has their options open.

Other than the slight blow to your ego, I see no point in getting so caught up in a girl you've dated for a month
 
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I hear you on the ego blow Zunder, but just keep in mind that nothing is truly exclusive until it has been discussed openly and agreed upon. The profile deletion thing was part of the discussion I had with my gf when we became exclusive.
 
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I hear you on the ego blow Zunder, but just keep in mind that nothing is truly exclusive until it has been discussed openly and agreed upon. The profile deletion thing was part of the discussion I had with my gf when we became exclusive.
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True mate. Its just funny how for 30 days she wasnt online, then all of a sudden this week she started up again.

I see the pitfalls of me starting to develop feelings too soon and before she has validated herself to me as a person.

Time to go find some fresh pvssy. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
 
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I had a female friend who met someone off pof that she was absolutely head over heels for. She had female oneitis for him if there ever was such a thing. After a month or two of their exclusive relationship, she admitted to me that she still would check her pof account now and then "just to see".

Once women become used to the attention of online dating with limitless options at their fingertips, most become addicted like its a drug.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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the_stig said:
She had female oneitis for him if there ever was such a thing.
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You'll know there is such a thing if you've ever been on the receiving end. It can be tedious...
 
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