"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I am transferring to a different school in the fall

lazikia

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and I need all the help I can get!

At the college I'm leaving, there were plenty of women (more than 15,000), but I still had a difficult time getting a girl. Believe me I tried everything including meeting girls in classes, student groups/organizations, parties, bars. I tried different clothing styles.

So now I'm starting somewhere new and I need all the advice I can get. Also, I won't be living in the dorms, so that means it'll be even harder to meet people.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Huffman

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Advice? What's stopping you from approaching girls RIGHT NOW?
In a couple of months, you'll be gone! This is a FREE TICKET for you!
All the stuff you always wanted to try? That you never had the balls to do? Now is the time!

Live the moment.
 

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If meeting chicks was already hard enough to begin with, why change to a situation where you know it will be even harder?

If you can't score at a big school, the problem is not the school, it's you. More specifically, it's your game. You can improve it by working it as much as possible, just like a muscle in your body. Volume is the key; talk to as many chicks as possible every day.

The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.
 

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AKA FLEX said:
The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.

Well, the school I'm transferring to also has a slew of girls, almost 15,000
 

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Why are you transferring? You dont get girls cause you obviously are missing something. Work on YOURSELF!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lazikia

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haha, I'm not transferring schools because of women, I'm doing it for other reasons, I just need advice for when I get there.
 

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lazikia said:
Bump, any other tips?
Yeah, you try too hard to get girls. You just got to let it flow naturally instead of forcing it.

Once you do that, girls will be yours no problem.

best of luck,
comic_relief
 

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You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
 

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bmxcetera said:
You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
Will it really be a piece of cake? I don't think the size of the student population has much to do with success with women. You're either good with girls or you're not. Now if you're good with ladies then you should have nothing to worry about.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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