"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I am transferring to a different school in the fall

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and I need all the help I can get!

At the college I'm leaving, there were plenty of women (more than 15,000), but I still had a difficult time getting a girl. Believe me I tried everything including meeting girls in classes, student groups/organizations, parties, bars. I tried different clothing styles.

So now I'm starting somewhere new and I need all the advice I can get. Also, I won't be living in the dorms, so that means it'll be even harder to meet people.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Advice? What's stopping you from approaching girls RIGHT NOW?
In a couple of months, you'll be gone! This is a FREE TICKET for you!
All the stuff you always wanted to try? That you never had the balls to do? Now is the time!

Live the moment.
 
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If meeting chicks was already hard enough to begin with, why change to a situation where you know it will be even harder?

If you can't score at a big school, the problem is not the school, it's you. More specifically, it's your game. You can improve it by working it as much as possible, just like a muscle in your body. Volume is the key; talk to as many chicks as possible every day.

The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.
 
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AKA FLEX said:
The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.
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Well, the school I'm transferring to also has a slew of girls, almost 15,000
 
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Why are you transferring? You dont get girls cause you obviously are missing something. Work on YOURSELF!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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haha, I'm not transferring schools because of women, I'm doing it for other reasons, I just need advice for when I get there.
 
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lazikia said:
Bump, any other tips?
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Yeah, you try too hard to get girls. You just got to let it flow naturally instead of forcing it.

Once you do that, girls will be yours no problem.

best of luck,
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You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
 
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bmxcetera said:
You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
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Will it really be a piece of cake? I don't think the size of the student population has much to do with success with women. You're either good with girls or you're not. Now if you're good with ladies then you should have nothing to worry about.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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