"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I am transferring to a different school in the fall

lazikia

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and I need all the help I can get!

At the college I'm leaving, there were plenty of women (more than 15,000), but I still had a difficult time getting a girl. Believe me I tried everything including meeting girls in classes, student groups/organizations, parties, bars. I tried different clothing styles.

So now I'm starting somewhere new and I need all the advice I can get. Also, I won't be living in the dorms, so that means it'll be even harder to meet people.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Huffman

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Advice? What's stopping you from approaching girls RIGHT NOW?
In a couple of months, you'll be gone! This is a FREE TICKET for you!
All the stuff you always wanted to try? That you never had the balls to do? Now is the time!

Live the moment.
 

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If meeting chicks was already hard enough to begin with, why change to a situation where you know it will be even harder?

If you can't score at a big school, the problem is not the school, it's you. More specifically, it's your game. You can improve it by working it as much as possible, just like a muscle in your body. Volume is the key; talk to as many chicks as possible every day.

The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.
 

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AKA FLEX said:
The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.

Well, the school I'm transferring to also has a slew of girls, almost 15,000
 

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Why are you transferring? You dont get girls cause you obviously are missing something. Work on YOURSELF!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lazikia

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haha, I'm not transferring schools because of women, I'm doing it for other reasons, I just need advice for when I get there.
 

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lazikia said:
Bump, any other tips?
Yeah, you try too hard to get girls. You just got to let it flow naturally instead of forcing it.

Once you do that, girls will be yours no problem.

best of luck,
comic_relief
 

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You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
 

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bmxcetera said:
You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
Will it really be a piece of cake? I don't think the size of the student population has much to do with success with women. You're either good with girls or you're not. Now if you're good with ladies then you should have nothing to worry about.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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