"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I am transferring to a different school in the fall

lazikia

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and I need all the help I can get!

At the college I'm leaving, there were plenty of women (more than 15,000), but I still had a difficult time getting a girl. Believe me I tried everything including meeting girls in classes, student groups/organizations, parties, bars. I tried different clothing styles.

So now I'm starting somewhere new and I need all the advice I can get. Also, I won't be living in the dorms, so that means it'll be even harder to meet people.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Huffman

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Advice? What's stopping you from approaching girls RIGHT NOW?
In a couple of months, you'll be gone! This is a FREE TICKET for you!
All the stuff you always wanted to try? That you never had the balls to do? Now is the time!

Live the moment.
 

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If meeting chicks was already hard enough to begin with, why change to a situation where you know it will be even harder?

If you can't score at a big school, the problem is not the school, it's you. More specifically, it's your game. You can improve it by working it as much as possible, just like a muscle in your body. Volume is the key; talk to as many chicks as possible every day.

The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.
 

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AKA FLEX said:
The thing that sucks is you're removing yourself from a situation where you had the perfect setting to do just that.

Well, the school I'm transferring to also has a slew of girls, almost 15,000
 

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Why are you transferring? You dont get girls cause you obviously are missing something. Work on YOURSELF!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lazikia

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haha, I'm not transferring schools because of women, I'm doing it for other reasons, I just need advice for when I get there.
 

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lazikia said:
Bump, any other tips?
Yeah, you try too hard to get girls. You just got to let it flow naturally instead of forcing it.

Once you do that, girls will be yours no problem.

best of luck,
comic_relief
 

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You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
 

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bmxcetera said:
You think you had it bad...try going to a community college with 4,500 students, of which maybe 450 at most were on campus at a time. I'm transferring to a huge school this fall and I'm not even worried about it, it'll be cake.
Will it really be a piece of cake? I don't think the size of the student population has much to do with success with women. You're either good with girls or you're not. Now if you're good with ladies then you should have nothing to worry about.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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