My current girlfriend has been my best friend for over a year. It's probably the best relationship i've ever had. This proves that there is hope to start a relationship with a friend, but i still don't recommend it. Any thoughts, opinions, or questions?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I am an exception to the rule
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wcknightjr
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Everyone likes a story with a good ending (at least to this point), so why don't ya stop gloating and tell yours.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Indeed, those are by far the best relationships, but can also be the most hurtful ones if they happen to end.
Remember, the streets are real cold... and everyone ends up there at one point in their life or another. If that relationship ends, it'll be really difficult to overcome. Trust me, I know.
Remember, the streets are real cold... and everyone ends up there at one point in their life or another. If that relationship ends, it'll be really difficult to overcome. Trust me, I know.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
No it doesnt.
You can still do it that way. But in my experience, it doesnt work out too good. All the women I've been in a relationship with were snapped up pretty fast. Within the space of about 2-4 weeks with them wanting exclusivity[if thats a word. if not, it is now
.All the girls I'm 'friends' with... I could screw 2 of them. The rest I hardly talk to.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Do you have stairs in your house?
I like the benefits of this so far. It's like we can skip all of the bullsht w/dating and taking things really slow for a while. we already know eachother good enough for it to be comfortable. At first i think girls think it'd be weird kissing their best friend. I think you should gradually take the friends thing to the next level.
Bring it up for a while and see what she says. If she denies it then act like you're not hurt. But then start ignoring her, but not to make it seem on purpose. She'll catch on that you're avoiding her and will be hurt. Most girls will see drama and run to it and try to make things better.(depending on how good of friends you are) Anyway kinda play hard to get. The trick is convincing her that she wants you. I dont know, this all might sound confusing right now but its 4:00 am, i just had a football game(we won our senior night!), and i need some sleep. Def happy with the whole best friend/girl friend thing.
PS- Anyone seen 'Lorenzo' around? I'm sure he'd like to know i'm posting again.
Bring it up for a while and see what she says. If she denies it then act like you're not hurt. But then start ignoring her, but not to make it seem on purpose. She'll catch on that you're avoiding her and will be hurt. Most girls will see drama and run to it and try to make things better.(depending on how good of friends you are) Anyway kinda play hard to get. The trick is convincing her that she wants you. I dont know, this all might sound confusing right now but its 4:00 am, i just had a football game(we won our senior night!), and i need some sleep. Def happy with the whole best friend/girl friend thing.
PS- Anyone seen 'Lorenzo' around? I'm sure he'd like to know i'm posting again.
jonny football hero
Master Don Juan
Question : how'd it happen?
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
i do not know if this had already been mentioned in this thread as i did not read all the replys, but i will tell you somthing...you are not an exception to the rule, the rule is not that if you make a girlfreind of a freind it will not work, it is that if you split up it is very lightly that you will no longer be best freinds.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She had known i've always had a thing for her, because thats how i first started getting close to her. The only problem was she had a boyfriend when we first started talking. And then she broke up with him and was single for quite a while. I think she got kinda lonely and realized we had something special, so decided to go with it?
She had told a friend of hers who's a friend of mine that she thought it'd be weird just kissing me. Well we kinda kissed a few times being drunk. And then eventually it didn't feel weird kissing sober because we'd done it before. I guess alcohol kinda helped me out there but i'm pretty sure it would have happened anyway.
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There are no rules...
mad dumbasses in the joint these days.
sosuave is really going down the drain. seems like all the people that knew what they were talking about stopped posting here.
Alright listen dude. There are reasons for everything. First off, you have to have a ****ing definiton of what "friend" is. I have mind and use it to make logical references when asked about the friend zone.
So what i say to you is this, YOU WERE NOT IN THE FRIEND ZONE. ANd thereby you are an exception to nothing.
Jester always ends posts.
sosuave is really going down the drain. seems like all the people that knew what they were talking about stopped posting here.
Alright listen dude. There are reasons for everything. First off, you have to have a ****ing definiton of what "friend" is. I have mind and use it to make logical references when asked about the friend zone.
So what i say to you is this, YOU WERE NOT IN THE FRIEND ZONE. ANd thereby you are an exception to nothing.
Jester always ends posts.
Canadianpimpology
Senior Don Juan
Only the Matrix.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.