I acted like her gay friend on the date

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Doc Loves fault?
No, I turned down making out with her in a restaurant that was completely empty. I said "PDA much" like a phaggot and a minute after that I thought "wtf did I just do?!?!" I asked this girl out because of my attraction to her and i was totally incongruent by turning down her advance. I fvcking friend zoned myself!
 

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You’re still on this sh*t?

Wasn’t that weeks ago?
It's still bothering me because I see her in class and I notice her becoming more and more distant. It's hard for me to adjust to her declining IL because I am socially awkward. I am talking to other girls, I swear on my life. But I'm thinking about calling her one time. I don't know if I should agree to be friends and hope for some benefits. I'm ruminating and I can't function because of this.
 
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That’s not going to work. You’re not getting any action from her or any other woman like that.

Look, because you have to see her regularly, best thing you can do is just be friendly and act like this **** never happened.

She’s acting the way she is now because it’s all fvcking awkward, and it’s getting worse because you’re stewing over it.

Put an end to it. Smile. Be friendly say hi. And ignore the sh*t out of her otherwise.
 

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That’s not going to work. You’re not getting any action from her or any other woman like that.

Look, because you have to see her regularly, best thing you can do is just be friendly and act like this **** never happened.

She’s acting the way she is now because it’s all fvcking awkward, and it’s getting worse because you’re stewing over it.

Put an end to it. Smile. Be friendly say hi. And ignore the sh*t out of her otherwise.
I believe I've posted this too. If you appear not to give a sh!t, then it doesn't matter. TBH, you shouldn't give a sh!t anyway... The dude needs to work on his self esteem. That's the prob. at hand. Not the lady, HIM and the way he puts himself down. The prob. with him is the dude looking at him in the mirror. If he doesn't think he's the sh!t, then why would anyone else?
 

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That’s not going to work. You’re not getting any action from her or any other woman like that.

Look, because you have to see her regularly, best thing you can do is just be friendly and act like this **** never happened.

She’s acting the way she is now because it’s all fvcking awkward, and it’s getting worse because you’re stewing over it.

Put an end to it. Smile. Be friendly say hi. And ignore the sh*t out of her otherwise.
Solid advice. I'm just very upset that I created this problem.
 

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I believe I've posted this too. If you appear not to give a sh!t, then it doesn't matter. TBH, you shouldn't give a sh!t anyway... The dude needs to work on his self esteem. That's the prob. at hand. Not the lady, HIM and the way he puts himself down. The prob. with him is the dude looking at him in the mirror. If he doesn't think he's the sh!t, then why would anyone else?
Well, one thing is for certain: women don’t fall for men who are easily rattled.
 

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It's still bothering me because I see her in class and I notice her becoming more and more distant. It's hard for me to adjust to her declining IL because I am socially awkward. I am talking to other girls, I swear on my life. But I'm thinking about calling her one time. I don't know if I should agree to be friends and hope for some benefits. I'm ruminating and I can't function because of this.
At least you are not going to an all boys school. That would be worst. There's not much at stake here. Work on these emotions. You need to be strong when you are in the big leagues (i.e. when you are working at a job, or taking classes in University, etc...). Just take the punches. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You have youth on your side.
 
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Well, one thing is for certain: women don’t fall for men who are easily rattled.
Ain't that for sh!t sure. I say this time and time again, you need to act (or believe) like you really do not give a fvck. I do not understand what's the big deal. What is she going to do to you? NOTHING! It's mind of matter. He minds too much, so it not only matters to him, but she can feel the tension; and it's not even the good kind, it's the creepy kind.
 

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Last things: so I should not try to contact her again? What about sitting next to her in class? Why do you think I turned down her advance?
 
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Man up zfg and look at the situation for what it is.
Did not read other post but you should be able to see where you stand with her just by her body language and eye contact.

Who cares if you did not kiss , its ok to not like doing it in public, just be assertive and confident about it.
 

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Last things: so I should not try to contact her again?
No. Smooth things over in passing so it’s not awkward anymore. Start with that. Don’t try to make anything happen. Just get rid of that awkward feeling in each other’s presence by showing her you can shrug this sh*t off.

That’s priority #1.


What about sitting next to her in class?
Maybe eventually. But no. Doing that now will just make it even more awkward.

Save this for when this crap is well behind the both of you and you can interact normally without the awkward feeling.

Why do you think I turned down her advance?
Because you lack confidence.
 

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Ain't that for sh!t sure. I say this time and time again, you need to act (or believe) like you really do not give a fvck. I do not understand what's the big deal. What is she going to do to you? NOTHING! It's mind of matter. He minds too much, so it not only matters to him, but she can feel the tension; and it's not even the good kind, it's the creepy kind.
So you think she thinks I'm creepy? That's not good.
 

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It's still bothering me because I see her in class and I notice her becoming more and more distant. It's hard for me to adjust to her declining IL because I am socially awkward. I am talking to other girls, I swear on my life. But I'm thinking about calling her one time. I don't know if I should agree to be friends and hope for some benefits. I'm ruminating and I can't function because of this.
Trololololololololololol
 
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