I’d love to hear your thoughts.

[Butterfly!]

I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this idea: “Be the flame, not the moth.”


What do you think it means to be the flame rather than the moth? More importantly, what does it actually take to become that flame in our own lives?


What qualities, habits, or mindset do you think make someone naturally magnetic and worth being drawn toward?

 

[BaronOfHair]

What qualities, habits, or mindset do you think make someone naturally magnetic and worth being drawn toward?

Not being a male equivalent of

for starters

 

[DonJefe19]

It's a lot easier to have qualities and attributes that women that you're attracted are desiring. They normally just come to you versus you having to seek them out and hope you pitch convincing them you're worthy.

 

[zekko]

Easier said than done, unfortunately.
And a bit against nature as well.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Firstly, welcome. Personal magnetism arises from you having something others want to be near. In your example the reason the flame has two intrinsic qualities that radiate outward: warmth and light. In addition a flame on a candle (for example) borrows the mesmerizing qualities of fire (danger and type of motion/movement) in a controlled way.

All those things are fascinating to creatures, but are not dangerously out of control like a wildfire, but even a candle holds the danger of that potential.

So it has an allure. The allure comes from the fascination and intrigue the flame creates because of its mysterious intrinsic qualities.

So.....what intrinsic qualities do you have that are intrinsically alluring? That arise out of your essence/energy?

In an individual person these type qualities arise from being unapologetically unique and authentic. Some historical examples you can research:

Coco Chanel
Oscar Wilde
Ruduloph Valentino
Andy Warhol
Freddie Mercury
Sophia Loren

But there are many others outside the arts. These are people who had allure arising out of who they are; out of the energy they radiate.

So what is it you are radiating energetically? What is special about you?

This is NOT something you can fake. But it is something you can develop over time if you can get outside of your self centered persective and offer something to those around you.....

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Its the same thing Heavy D said in a different way:

"Dont clock anybody, let them all clock you.
Don't be down with anybody, let them all be down with you."