I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
no, i believe him.Originally posted by triple_ultima
I hope you realize that this situation is an absolute oxymoron and this girl obviously does not care about you, and I hope, therefore, that this post is just a joke.
not quite. don't act like you're not interested, after some time passes that will turn a girl away as much as the next thing. The key is to make your interest in her seem unimportant, but still present.Originally posted by California Love
pretend that she doesnt exist for a while. In turn this will raise her IL to a level in which she can no longer resist and she will intercede on her instincts. Don't prolong ths process though.
You should try not posting the same thing in 2 different forums.Originally posted by babemaster2000
What should I do? I know this girl is really interested (from insiders), but she really tries to avoid me in school! Any tips from you masters?
HER AVOIDING ME HAS RAISED MY IL!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Originally posted by babemaster2000
Ok, so how do I approach this shy girl? Man, this is so tough this hs chick doesn't have much exp. with flirting and guys. She is ALWAYS with her ****blocking friends with her b1tch shield up!
Thanks for the helpful responses so far !
It isn't too hard, ever walk behind her in the hall? If your school is ever crowded like mine and if she is walking in front of you one day step on the back of her shoe. She'll probably turn around and say something to her.
Or just grab your balls and go talk to her.
She obviously won't make a move towards you, the ball is in your court.
-babemaster2000
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.