How's my texting game?

[AntoniousIV]

The Girl: We've been seeing each other for a bit. 6–8 dates total, hooked up on date 3. (it's casual, not a relationship)
The Situation: It's long-distance right now, but that ends in 10 days. We hadn't texted in a couple of days before this.
What Happened: She initiated the convo by sending a screenshot of her girlfriends randomly running into my friends on Ome.tv (this is actually the second time her friends have bumped into my guys on there).



The chats are translated from my language, this isn't the original chat.
I wonder if asking her "will you love me if i stop writing with commas", is unattractive bcs im seeking her love. Even thought it's obviously a joke.
Also she's clearly a lot drier than me. And It kinda looks like I'm the one making 70% of the effort here.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Pretty terrible honestly.

 

[AntoniousIV]

Pretty terrible honestly.

anything in specific?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

anything in specific?

All of it?

 

[BPH]

This whole thing was so weird to read dude...some of you would benefit from not texting unless it's specifically to set up plans...

She's weird. You're needy. And there was no point to this conversation.

 

[AntoniousIV]

All of it?

No I meant like anything specific I could improve on?

 

[AntoniousIV]

This whole thing was so weird to read dude...some of you would benefit from not texting unless it's specifically to set up plans...

She's weird. You're needy. And there was no point to this conversation.

I've always been desensitized to things being "weird". I know rationally that parts of the conversation are weird, but I don't feel like they're weird.

I contact her every few days, or she does. And my goal is to keep things warm, and not seem like im withdrawing.
But if I'm being frank I feel a lot better on the days when I talk to her rather than the days I don't. So I am pretty needy, but I don't think I'm showing it too much. I didn't feel this way when I had my summer job as a waiter, and talked to 20+ new people a day (guests).

 

[Cheeky_James]

It would be good to know who is who , what colour text is you.
It looks ok to me, but really , any guy can release tension by just texting too much,
The sex is coming right ? So all that’s required is ‘looking forward to seeing you “
Or escalate with some new sex ideas of you wanna try/ propose to her,
which I think I see in there..(?) so yeah it’s ok.
In general, don’t text too much, it’s already a solid casual relationship established, so don’t sweat the comms,

 

[AntoniousIV]

It would be good to know who is who , what colour text is you.
It looks ok to me, but really , any guy can release tension by just texting too much,
The sex is coming right ? So all that’s required is ‘looking forward to seeing you “
Or escalate with some sex ideas , which I think I see in there so yeah it’s ok.
In general, don’t text too much, it’s already a solid casual relationship established, so don’t sweat the comms,

I'm the blue text, she's the black text.

I'll definetly try to text her less often when it stops being long distance in 10 days. Can't right now because there's no contact other than the texting right now.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No I meant like anything specific I could improve on?

Everything.

Before you send a text next time ask these 2 questions:

1) What am I looking to accomplish by sending this?

2) Does this give her any value?


Because if you asked those two questions prior to sending your texts you either would not have sent them, or you would have significantly altered them.

1) I have no idea what you are trying to accomplish with any of the texts, most seem like pointless filler.

2) I don't see a single text that you sent that provided any value to her. NEVER send a text to a woman that provides no value.

 

[AntoniousIV]

2) Does this give her any value?

Can you be more specific with the value part of this? Like what's valuable in text?

I think that the value was that she probably had fun during the conversation? Doesn't it seem that way?

 

[zekko]

I think it goes on too long, for one thing.
But on the positive side, you've got her talking sex.

 

[Sega Genesis]

So how did it end?

From what I read, you both agreed to play cards, just the two of you?

When? Did you lock down a date and she agreed?

P.S. To be fair, I have seen much longer texting exchanges posted here, way longer than this one and that didn't appear to go anywhere.

 

[Plinco]

Your conversation should lead her to a desired, functional outcome.

Here's a good video on the structure:

Your expression should be unique and candid. I made a thread about training self expression:

Ladies and gentlemen I've cracked the code

Anyone who pays attention here might know about this thread here https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/feel-free-to-criticize-my-texting-game.285734/ with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey...

www.sosuave.net

What has helped me is practicing open, but functional expression.

I went from texting like this





To texting like this:

 

[Cheeky_James]

Your conversation should lead her to a desired, functional outcome.

Here's a good video on the structure:

Your expression should be unique and candid. I made a thread about training self expression:

Ladies and gentlemen I've cracked the code

Anyone who pays attention here might know about this thread here https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/feel-free-to-criticize-my-texting-game.285734/ with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey...

www.sosuave.net

What has helped me is practicing open, but functional expression.

I went from texting like this



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To texting like this:

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yes Plinco but you are missing that he has already F-closed with this chick. There is no more playing coy or flirting to be done. The frame has been set !

@AntoniousIV
Once you have closed w a chick and it’s casual ongoing.
There is no need for much rapport, comfort , flirt or any other value tbh.
You just text her with “when u back? lets catch up on your return (+smirk emoji/ devil emoji) “
Or simply “ mmm, Thinking of you again now, and that thing you do when u back?”

Just comms - I’m horny. Or say simply “ I’m horny”. When the mood strikes.

when a chick is away /LDR really you have to let her do her thing. And let her text you, if she feels she has to keep *you* warm. Or wants to communicate something. If she wants to have a laugh , share a memory or whatever.

otherwise u run the risk of annoying her/ interrupting her doing her thing. Just be cool and do your thing, If she finds another interest while away… it’s out of your control,

‘The puss that is meant for you again, won’t pass you by’ -

 

[Plinco]

yes Plinco but you are missing that he has already F-closed with this chick. There is no more playing coy or flirting to be done. The frame has been set !

True, but the principles still hold.

 

[AntoniousIV]

So how did it end?

From what I read, you both agreed to play cards, just the two of you?

When? Did you lock down a date and she agreed?

P.S. To be fair, I have seen much longer texting exchanges posted here, way longer than this one and that didn't appear to go anywhere.

It was just texting for fun, no goal of a date. I'm still away from her city, im moving there in 10ish days.

 

[AntoniousIV]

Your conversation should lead her to a desired, functional outcome.

Here's a good video on the structure:

Your expression should be unique and candid. I made a thread about training self expression:

Ladies and gentlemen I've cracked the code

Anyone who pays attention here might know about this thread here https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/feel-free-to-criticize-my-texting-game.285734/ with my frustrations and some confusing input I had to figure this out on my own. Texting guidelines are fantastic, however they don't convey...

www.sosuave.net

What has helped me is practicing open, but functional expression.

I'm gonna check out the video, is that channel good overall?

 

[Clockwerk50]

I do not see a problem with it. The conversation ran longer than I personally would have liked, and while it was somewhat boring, I generally only text when I have time, which might not be much.

 

[AntoniousIV]

I do not see a problem with it. The conversation ran longer than I personally would have liked, and while it was somewhat boring, I generally only text when I have time, which might not be much.

I guess I should save the chat for in person not through text