"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Girl (on the first date): "We are not having sex tonight"
Assume she was having nice time until then

What is your action in this scenario?

I am thinking that showing indifference is the way to go here but I feel there is a quirky way of dealing with this.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Any girl who says this is definitely down for sex. She's trying to assure herself that she isn't really a slut.

Look at it this way; if she wasn't thinking about having sex with you, if she didn't see you in a sexual way at all, she wouldn't even say that.

You wrote in the other thread that you abstain from kino until you kiss these chicks; if that works for you it works. In my case on the other hand, the quickest way to defuse sexual tension and assure that I won't get laid is to not touch a girl up pretty much constantly. On her inside elbow, taking her wrist and pulling her in a certain direction, on her neck, etc.

You can tease her if she says "we are not having sex tonight" and say "yeah, I prefer tomorrow morning, too" with a slight smirk. Then carry on exactly as before. Push her physical boundaries and if she responds (touching you back), keep pushing.

Tension.
 

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Girl (on the first date): "We are not having sex tonight"
Assume she was having nice time until then

What is your action in this scenario?

I am thinking that showing indifference is the way to go here but I feel there is a quirky way of dealing with this.
"Whoa..you better slow down...obviously we know what has been going through your mind all day...but I'm not that easy. You have to wine and dine me before I put out."

With a smirk. She will love it...
 

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^ Classic reversal.

Reversal works with everything. It's easy to remember too, as it's always the opposite of what the status quo is, the opposite of the blue pill.
 

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The classic "we're not having sex tonight".
Solid answers so far. Just like Visionist said, she is definately thinking about having s3x with you or else she wouldn't have mentioned it, it's just her anti-slvt defence shield to make sure you take all the responsibility for what might happen next making sure she's not being judged, so she can tell her gf's the next day. "i don't know, we were just checking out his stamp collection and then suddenly i was naked in his bed". They love to be able to tell their friends that "it just happended!" and go along for the ride.

As long as you show that you don't need s3x from her you're good.

Last time i heard it i responded with "we're not doing anything you're uncomfortable with", and went straight home and had passionate s3x.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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^ That's the mature response of a man who 110% knows she's gagging for him and has nothing to prove to himself or her. I imagine she was younger than you?
 

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^ That's the mature response of a man who 110% knows she's gagging for him and has nothing to prove to himself or her. I imagine she was younger than you?
Yeah i pretty much never date older chicks than myself. They come with too much entitlement and baggage.
 
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