"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl (on the first date): "We are not having sex tonight"
Assume she was having nice time until then

What is your action in this scenario?

I am thinking that showing indifference is the way to go here but I feel there is a quirky way of dealing with this.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Any girl who says this is definitely down for sex. She's trying to assure herself that she isn't really a slut.

Look at it this way; if she wasn't thinking about having sex with you, if she didn't see you in a sexual way at all, she wouldn't even say that.

You wrote in the other thread that you abstain from kino until you kiss these chicks; if that works for you it works. In my case on the other hand, the quickest way to defuse sexual tension and assure that I won't get laid is to not touch a girl up pretty much constantly. On her inside elbow, taking her wrist and pulling her in a certain direction, on her neck, etc.

You can tease her if she says "we are not having sex tonight" and say "yeah, I prefer tomorrow morning, too" with a slight smirk. Then carry on exactly as before. Push her physical boundaries and if she responds (touching you back), keep pushing.

Tension.
 

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Girl (on the first date): "We are not having sex tonight"
Assume she was having nice time until then

What is your action in this scenario?

I am thinking that showing indifference is the way to go here but I feel there is a quirky way of dealing with this.
"Whoa..you better slow down...obviously we know what has been going through your mind all day...but I'm not that easy. You have to wine and dine me before I put out."

With a smirk. She will love it...
 

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^ Classic reversal.

Reversal works with everything. It's easy to remember too, as it's always the opposite of what the status quo is, the opposite of the blue pill.
 

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The classic "we're not having sex tonight".
Solid answers so far. Just like Visionist said, she is definately thinking about having s3x with you or else she wouldn't have mentioned it, it's just her anti-slvt defence shield to make sure you take all the responsibility for what might happen next making sure she's not being judged, so she can tell her gf's the next day. "i don't know, we were just checking out his stamp collection and then suddenly i was naked in his bed". They love to be able to tell their friends that "it just happended!" and go along for the ride.

As long as you show that you don't need s3x from her you're good.

Last time i heard it i responded with "we're not doing anything you're uncomfortable with", and went straight home and had passionate s3x.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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^ That's the mature response of a man who 110% knows she's gagging for him and has nothing to prove to himself or her. I imagine she was younger than you?
 

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^ That's the mature response of a man who 110% knows she's gagging for him and has nothing to prove to himself or her. I imagine she was younger than you?
Yeah i pretty much never date older chicks than myself. They come with too much entitlement and baggage.
 
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