"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How would you reply to this?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Or dont answer her directly by saying That's great. Glad to hear you're doing well .
I know I'm not completely over her otherwise I wouldn't be wasting time with this . But this is probably the last time I will respond to her.
 
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All good posts and what I glean from all this? It depends on the situation, the history between the guy and girl. The proximity to her eg long distance will be more difficult to keep IL and also what you want to achieve.

I know guys who have had several repeat fck sessions by re hooking up with ex plates/Gfs but maintained enough distance not to get sucked in to further relationship status. And that doesn't sound like a bad thing to me.
 
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If you have everything going for you, why not just tell her you're doing well. Playing mind games will only show that you are beta.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Right. My ex fiancee just texted me out of the blue today. She Whatsapped me asking how my life was and if that was my cat in my profile picture.

I have no bad feelings towards this girl and our break up was amicable but I am not going to reply. I want nothing from her and I have no intention of starting anything up with her. There is nothing to benefit from replying to her.

I also do not care whether she thinks I have moved on and am doing great or whether she thinks I am butthurt. I just don't care.
 
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Right. My ex fiancee just texted me out of the blue today. She Whatsapped me asking how my life was and if that was my cat in my profile picture.

I have no bad feelings towards this girl and our break up was amicable but I am not going to reply. I want nothing from her and I have no intention of starting anything up with her. There is nothing to benefit from replying to her.

I also do not care whether she thinks I have moved on and am doing great or whether she thinks I am butthurt. I just don't care.
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Good post. Funny thing is, they don't come back sniffing around until you get to the point when you don't care. It's like they have a sixth sense for it. :crackup:
 
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Yes I think ignoring and continuing to ignore is the best option . I think she's trying to rub it in and gloat. If she was sincere I may have replied but this is clear attention tactics . Like a previous post said I don't want anything from her and I don't really care.
 
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Are you living your life in a cage based on her thoughts of you?

Ignore that hoe. Who gives a **** what she thinks, who cares if she thinks you're butthurt? You're just living your life and she's irrelevant, that's all that matters. It's your life and she's just a tiny little speck, of no importance. Live your life for YOU, and say FORGET THIS HOE, I'm going to keep moving forward with my life.
 
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