"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how would you kiss a girl who kisses like this.. ?
- Thread starter flyinshark
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Well you should have put something in there, unless her teeth were really that intimidating...ryannath said:
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
Francisco d'Anconia said:Awwww, flowers.... :crackup:
I know man, what an AFC right? kidding. Ace is tight.
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ValleyDJing said:
Who, little ol' me? To answer FDA's question, without needing to touch the vibes of homosexuality, girls I've kissed who were good kissers, and tongue fiends, generally give great head.
Kissing, despite what people think or say, IS very intimate. You can bang all you want, but kissing is probably MORE intimate and emotional, esp for women, than sex or head. People in porn do the nastiest stuff, but I've seen about 1 group EVER kiss. Even when hooking up while I was drunk, kissing was the hardest thing for me, and it was an eyeopener to realize I didn't want this girl. So you learn alot from a kiss. Alot.
As far as HOW a person kisses, sometimes she just does it wrong. It's supposed to be good for BOTH of you, so I would try to bridge the gap between my pleasing ways and her's. If she were that awkward (at least to me), I'd probably NOT kiss traditionally, and try doing lip kisses or bites to bring her down a bit. If she's loves bj's fine, but acting like you're blowing my mouth or giving me mouth to mouth isn't pleasurable. The only other thing could be she was communicating she wanted to give head...to which you should let her.
Over time, kissing styles meld together, to where it seems you've never not kissed right. The worst kisses I've had were from smokers, not b/c they can't kiss well, but above all things, a pleasing smell matters MOST. Kissing style right off the bat is a bonus, but a bad smell makes that first impression IMPOSSIBLE to reverse.
A-Unit
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yep.A-Unit said:
I'll add something about smoking too, not only does it changes a person's scent, it changes their taste. Think of kissing someone who has bratwurst burps but worse. :nervous: Smoking permeates a person's body chemistry as much as their diet.
flyinshark
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man, just when i thought i was beginning to be a good kisser, it seems i've underestimated this issue.. and A-Unit is right, i heard a few girls saying how intimate and important kissing is, so it definitely should not be an area us guys should ignore..
and it's true that if you kiss the same chick many times, the 2 of you eventually end up finding your own unique way of kissing together, to the point where it starts to feel right.. of course it could happen that it feels right from the very beginning, in which case neither of you gets to adjust to the other (and learn any new moves)
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Now you've got it.flyinshark said:how ironic that she kissed me like a shark, given what my nickname is on this site
man, just when i thought i was beginning to be a good kisser, it seems i've underestimated this issue.. and A-Unit is right, i heard a few girls saying how intimate and important kissing is, so it definitely should not be an area us guys should ignore..
and it's true that if you kiss the same chick many times, the 2 of you eventually end up finding your own unique way of kissing together, to the point where it starts to feel right.. of course it could happen that it feels right from the very beginning, in which case neither of you gets to adjust to the other (and learn any new moves)