When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well you should have put something in there, unless her teeth were really that intimidating...ryannath said:"She was like.. opening her mouth to the max (reminding me of a shark who wants to eat some prey)"....lol i literally cracked up for a good 60 seconds when I read this, picturing her mouth wide open like a shark..lol.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Awwww, flowers.... :crackup::crackup:
ValleyDJing said:I know man, what an AFC right? kidding. Ace is tight.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yep.A-Unit said:To answer FDA's question, without needing to touch the vibes of homosexuality, girls I've kissed who were good kissers, and tongue fiends, generally give great head.
Kissing, despite what people think or say, IS very intimate. You can bang all you want, but kissing is probably MORE intimate and emotional, esp for women, than sex or head. People in porn do the nastiest stuff, but I've seen about 1 group EVER kiss. Even when hooking up while I was drunk, kissing was the hardest thing for me, and it was an eyeopener to realize I didn't want this girl. So you learn alot from a kiss. Alot.
As far as HOW a person kisses, sometimes she just does it wrong. It's supposed to be good for BOTH of you, so I would try to bridge the gap between my pleasing ways and her's. If she were that awkward (at least to me), I'd probably NOT kiss traditionally, and try doing lip kisses or bites to bring her down a bit. If she's loves bj's fine, but acting like you're blowing my mouth or giving me mouth to mouth isn't pleasurable. The only other thing could be she was communicating she wanted to give head...to which you should let her.
Over time, kissing styles meld together, to where it seems you've never not kissed right. The worst kisses I've had were from smokers, not b/c they can't kiss well, but above all things, a pleasing smell matters MOST. Kissing style right off the bat is a bonus, but a bad smell makes that first impression IMPOSSIBLE to reverse.
Now you've got it.flyinshark said:how ironic that she kissed me like a shark, given what my nickname is on this site
man, just when i thought i was beginning to be a good kisser, it seems i've underestimated this issue.. and A-Unit is right, i heard a few girls saying how intimate and important kissing is, so it definitely should not be an area us guys should ignore..
and it's true that if you kiss the same chick many times, the 2 of you eventually end up finding your own unique way of kissing together, to the point where it starts to feel right.. of course it could happen that it feels right from the very beginning, in which case neither of you gets to adjust to the other (and learn any new moves)