"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how would you kiss a girl who kisses like this.. ?

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"She was like.. opening her mouth to the max (reminding me of a shark who wants to eat some prey)"....lol i literally cracked up for a good 60 seconds when I read this, picturing her mouth wide open like a shark..lol.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ryannath said:
"She was like.. opening her mouth to the max (reminding me of a shark who wants to eat some prey)"....lol i literally cracked up for a good 60 seconds when I read this, picturing her mouth wide open like a shark..lol.
Well you should have put something in there, unless her teeth were really that intimidating... :eek:
 

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To answer FDA's question, without needing to touch the vibes of homosexuality, girls I've kissed who were good kissers, and tongue fiends, generally give great head.

Kissing, despite what people think or say, IS very intimate. You can bang all you want, but kissing is probably MORE intimate and emotional, esp for women, than sex or head. People in porn do the nastiest stuff, but I've seen about 1 group EVER kiss. Even when hooking up while I was drunk, kissing was the hardest thing for me, and it was an eyeopener to realize I didn't want this girl. So you learn alot from a kiss. Alot.

As far as HOW a person kisses, sometimes she just does it wrong. It's supposed to be good for BOTH of you, so I would try to bridge the gap between my pleasing ways and her's. If she were that awkward (at least to me), I'd probably NOT kiss traditionally, and try doing lip kisses or bites to bring her down a bit. If she's loves bj's fine, but acting like you're blowing my mouth or giving me mouth to mouth isn't pleasurable. The only other thing could be she was communicating she wanted to give head...to which you should let her.

Over time, kissing styles meld together, to where it seems you've never not kissed right. The worst kisses I've had were from smokers, not b/c they can't kiss well, but above all things, a pleasing smell matters MOST. Kissing style right off the bat is a bonus, but a bad smell makes that first impression IMPOSSIBLE to reverse.


A-Unit
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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A-Unit said:
To answer FDA's question, without needing to touch the vibes of homosexuality, girls I've kissed who were good kissers, and tongue fiends, generally give great head.

Kissing, despite what people think or say, IS very intimate. You can bang all you want, but kissing is probably MORE intimate and emotional, esp for women, than sex or head. People in porn do the nastiest stuff, but I've seen about 1 group EVER kiss. Even when hooking up while I was drunk, kissing was the hardest thing for me, and it was an eyeopener to realize I didn't want this girl. So you learn alot from a kiss. Alot.

As far as HOW a person kisses, sometimes she just does it wrong. It's supposed to be good for BOTH of you, so I would try to bridge the gap between my pleasing ways and her's. If she were that awkward (at least to me), I'd probably NOT kiss traditionally, and try doing lip kisses or bites to bring her down a bit. If she's loves bj's fine, but acting like you're blowing my mouth or giving me mouth to mouth isn't pleasurable. The only other thing could be she was communicating she wanted to give head...to which you should let her.

Over time, kissing styles meld together, to where it seems you've never not kissed right. The worst kisses I've had were from smokers, not b/c they can't kiss well, but above all things, a pleasing smell matters MOST. Kissing style right off the bat is a bonus, but a bad smell makes that first impression IMPOSSIBLE to reverse.
Yep. :up:

I'll add something about smoking too, not only does it changes a person's scent, it changes their taste. Think of kissing someone who has bratwurst burps but worse. :nervous: Smoking permeates a person's body chemistry as much as their diet.
 

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how ironic that she kissed me like a shark, given what my nickname is on this site :)

man, just when i thought i was beginning to be a good kisser, it seems i've underestimated this issue.. and A-Unit is right, i heard a few girls saying how intimate and important kissing is, so it definitely should not be an area us guys should ignore..

and it's true that if you kiss the same chick many times, the 2 of you eventually end up finding your own unique way of kissing together, to the point where it starts to feel right.. of course it could happen that it feels right from the very beginning, in which case neither of you gets to adjust to the other (and learn any new moves)
 

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flyinshark said:
how ironic that she kissed me like a shark, given what my nickname is on this site :)

man, just when i thought i was beginning to be a good kisser, it seems i've underestimated this issue.. and A-Unit is right, i heard a few girls saying how intimate and important kissing is, so it definitely should not be an area us guys should ignore..

and it's true that if you kiss the same chick many times, the 2 of you eventually end up finding your own unique way of kissing together, to the point where it starts to feel right.. of course it could happen that it feels right from the very beginning, in which case neither of you gets to adjust to the other (and learn any new moves)
Now you've got it. :up:
 

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