"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How Would You Handle This?

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Ok, here's a weird situation for you DJers:

I was walking through the bar on Sat. night when I passed a semicircular booth full of girls. One was standing up, and she tells me "stop." I go, "Ok, what do you want."

"Dance."

"What do you mean, dance?"

"Dance for us" (steps back, putting me at center stage)

"F*ck you, you dance. Why the hell would I dance for you?"

"Fine, you're worthless. Get out of here."

Pretty interesting, eh? The funny thing is that I deal with mean/manipulative women on a regular basis, and it's not like I walk around asking for it. I really wonder, am I setting off some trigger in these women? Because the manipulation NEVER works. Maybe the packaging doesn't match the product.

Your thoughts, please.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ignore what she said and pretend she just said 'hi' to you.

then proceed to work the table as you would any other table of hot girls.
 

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"Dance."

"What do you mean, dance?"

"Dance for us" (steps back, putting me at center stage)

****ed eyebrow

"And you're going to motivate me... how?"
 

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poohead said:
ignore what she said and pretend she just said 'hi' to you.

then proceed to work the table as you would any other table of hot girls.
Oh believe me, these weren't worth it. MAJOR attitudes, and nowhere near hot enough to make up for them.
 
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